DH has excelled himself...

[LittleMilla]

I'm livid/really upset and need to vent.

I had ds2 3 weeks (tomorrow) ago. DH went to London for work today, we live about 1.5 hours away by train. He was due to get the 4.15 train home, I'd pick him up from station after collecting ds1 (2) from nursery.

Calls at 3.30 to say lunch has overrun and he'd get the 6.45 as that's when off peak starts again. Fine, not entirely happy but I'll cope.

On my way home I call to see if he might be able to get sme nappies & infacol. No answer. I continue calling on and off until 8pm when he finally calls me back.

He's wasted. Can barely speak and is still in the city. I've called a few friends to see if someone can go and get him, he's since called back to say he's ok and is on his way home.

Called my mum who is 1.5 hours away but she's coming down (was coming tomorrow anyway) to help me. Even if he does make it home without passing out on train, he's going to be in no fit state. I don't want him near me or the baby and as he's current,y in the habit of waking hourly from 3am, I need support.

I'm gutted . DH has got form for this sort of thing - did something similar with ds1, when I've been pg etc. when the fuck is he going to grow up!?!?!

So not a aibu per se. Just a rant!

What a twat.

Rant away! and make him get up in the night/ early morning with DC

Given that your DM in on the way, I would tell twat to find himself a travel lodge when he is sober and ready to grovel.

Sorry - and only come home when he is sober etc

Twat

I second Stealthsquiggle's suggestion, and would tell him to book himself into a hotel for the night. What an idiot

My ex husband was like this and it never changed. Lots of let downs and drunken behaviour followed by me doing the donkey work. Unsurprisingly I left him....

I'm afraid I'd tell him not to come home if he couldn't come home in a fit state.

He's in the spare room for sure. We're broke, but otherwise I'd tell him not to bother coming home. Now I'm worried he'll fall asleep on train. Last time he did that it cost £120 to get a taxi home at 2am. Nob.

My biggest frustration is that he's an amazing father and husband (normally). He'll get up in the night etc and has been incredible with ds1 for the last few weeks. I get lie ins and I really don't have much to complain about. We just get these twuntish blow outs every now and then which always leave me fuming. And it nearly always seems to be when I'm pregnant/breast feeding etc...so basically unable to do anything even remotely irresponsible .

I luff my mum tho. No hesitation for her to jump in the car and come. DH will be mortified. Which he bloody well deserves to be.

I don't want him near me or the boys tonight. But he can bloody well get up with ds1 tomorrow. And I've just stopped myself emptying the stinking nappy bin as it's bin day tomorrow. He can do that at 7am tomorrow .