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To wonder if all 15 year old girls are like this

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Mrsdavidcaruso · 08/08/2013 18:17

I have a friend and her 15yo DD staying with me, have taken the week off work to ferry them around the Isle of Wight where I live, been nice weather and we have been to loads of places as well as Ice Skating and Bowling, young miss does not seem to be very happy, spends all the time on her lap top/phone, grunts instead of talks, spends an hour in the bathroom, sulks and is picky with her food.

Her Mum says ignore her as she actually said on her FB page that she is having a nice time, my DS is only 4 so I am wondering if I have all this to come or is it only girls that a pain in the arse at that age.

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ilovesooty · 08/08/2013 20:30

I think her behaviour as a guest is rude. Has she said thank you for any of the activities she's been taken on?

Justforlaughs · 08/08/2013 20:30

In fairness, a holiday with mum, mums friend and a 4 yo probably isn't high on her list of things I must do when I am 15

ihearsounds · 08/08/2013 20:37

I want a grunting teen. All mine at that age talked to me loads. I used to send myself to my room to escape them. Or I would spend hours in the bathroom, although that one didn't always work, one of them would stand outside the door talking to me to keep me company.
The phones and laptops, yes, constantly on them. But even then, they would bloody talk to me. Had to block them on Fb. They would be on fb chat and actually talking to me.

Picky with food. Yes. Youngest dd was. Just ignored it. Realised she was just doing it to be a pain and find another reason to talk to me.

Getting ready to go out a total nightmare. Hours. In the end I would tell them right at xx we are leaving, and I don't bloody care what you look like because we are leaving then like it or not.

Oh and don't even get me started on shopping. They aren't normal. They don't like going shopping with their mates. They like to torment me instead. We spend all afternoon looking round countless shops, and its nah I don't like it.. Lucky if we buy a pair of socks. Ask them what they are looking for. Find what they are looking for, and guess what, nah I don't like it.

TheRealFellatio · 08/08/2013 21:14

My 13 year old is like that ihear. He never shuts up. Ever.

Pollydon · 08/08/2013 21:25

Yup, sounds right to me.

ReginaPhilangie · 08/08/2013 21:38

Sounds completely normal to me.

Preferthedogtothekids · 08/08/2013 21:45

My almost 15 isn't like that so I guess it's universal. Mine is nuts about classical music, sings and plays an instrument and spends 3 evenings per week with her sports club. The school love her and wheel her out to perform for every concert and event. She spends lots of time with me and doesn't need more than slight correction if she goes out of line.

Me? I was a nightmare! by 16 I had a boyfriend of 30 and used to disappear on a Friday at 6pm and roll back home by midnight on a Sunday without a word to my parents. My mother and I never had a kind word to say to each other and we ended physically fighting on a couple of occasions.

It isn't genetic!

FoundAChopinLizt · 08/08/2013 21:53

Mine isn't-she's lovely. Much nicer than me, in fact.

gingermop · 08/08/2013 21:55

sounds about right, my dd spends most of her time sulking, on her bb or on laptop, spends 2 hours getting ready to go out.
bring bak my cheery bubbly 5yo dd, I miss her

Beastofburden · 08/08/2013 21:56

She is probably self conscious and awkward rather than horrible. If she was horrible you would get worse behaviour. Feel sorry for her, she probably has a tiny spot that feels like a lighthouse, or a boy hasn't texted, or the wrong boy has, or there was a party she missed, or something.

Honestly, at her age, it isn't going to be about you.

FoundAChopinLizt · 08/08/2013 21:57

A tiny spot that feels like a lighthouse..

really made me laugh

davidjrmum · 08/08/2013 22:03

Our oldest dd was like this but our 14 yr dd is not like this at all - she's very pleasant to be around all of the time. Our ds is only 6 so much too early to say!

TheWickedBitchOfTheBest · 08/08/2013 22:03

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Mum2Luke · 08/08/2013 22:48

My DD was like this with me at that age, thankfully she has grown into a lovely daughter I am proud of and who does everything and more for me.

I will actually miss her when she goes to Uni in October, I can talk about just about everything which is more than I can with the 22 year old lad, he's quite quiet and keeps a lot to himself. I don't however ask to be their Facebook friend, I think they should have that to be private with their friends and what I don't know about I wont worry about. They both are mature adults and I hope their 11 year old brother follows suit.

NoComet · 08/08/2013 23:00

No DD1 is very chatty, in your face and appreciative of fun activities.

Quite capable of being ready in five minutes flat, 15 max.
Doesn't worry about make up and can plait or song hut bun here hair in seconds.

DD2(12) has moments of being like that, sulky and with her head phones on.
Unfortunately DD1 and me tease her so badly she gives up and general joins in.

DD2 is always best if she feels she has a bit of say in the activity and she likes some same age company occasionally.

DD1 likes a couple of special DFs when they aren't busy, but totally prefers parents, to most teens who she finds just as trying as the OP is finding this 15y

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