To blame my parents divorce for my control freak tendencies??

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It's dawned on me recently that I can be a control freak, particularly when it comes to the care of DD (pfb).

I think I can attribute some of this to the fact that my parents split when I was seven. It was all pretty amicable when we were young and I'm grateful for that. DM, DB and I moved into a new house with my stepdad though we saw my dad twice in the week then every other weekend. His kids (my two stepsisters) came to ours every Saturday for the day. When we moved I changed school, didn't want to leave my house and school as I was very happy there but understood that it had been decided that we were moving and had to get on with it.

Thinking back I really really didn't want to have all that change going on and can remember that sinking feeling that things were going to change and it was impossible for me to stop it even if I knew how.

And I think it's that feeling that I'm pushing back on when I'm being a bit too pfb or bossy to poor DH

Dunno what the point of this post is really. Pretty self indulgent really; guess I just needed to get that written down.

Oh and apologies for lack of apostrophe in the thread title!

Or, your control freak tendencies could be blamed on your parents staying together unhappy and you trying to impose order on the difficult situation.

Point taken :-)

I know it's partly just me.

I think its a bit of a tedious link tbh :/

Did you mean tenuous NotYo? Because it's an interesting point to the OP.

YANBU. I think it's highly likely that there is a link. I am very anxious and control freaky too, and I had a childhood where unpleasant stuff was happening that I could not control.

But were you like it before the split but never realised?