To replace all cups and glass's with paper ones, (except mine, of course)

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I am so fed up of going to the cupboard for a glass or cup (some are the plastic kind) only to find that there are none there, Go up to my kids rooms and there they all are, 2 kids 20 and 17, at least 8 or ten glass's, mugs or cups in each of their rooms, some empty some half or 3 quaters full with whatever drink they took up there.

The only time I have any in the cupboard is when I nag them to bring them down and I come in to find them all next to the sink ready for me to wash and put away, then a few days later the cupboard is empty again,

Wibu to get rid of most of them and replace them with paper cups, I would obviously keep a few for myself and visitors (these are washed up straight away) but hide them from the kids,

I have the same problem with plates but not to the extent of glasses and cups.

No matter how many times I tell them to bring down the glass/cup when they want another drink they never do, Yet when I complain about the amount in their rooms i'm accused of moaning.

YABU

Stop them bringing them up there

If they do, then insist they wash them up

They're old enough to do these things for themselves. You shouldn't let them treat you like skivvy.

Sympathy. DS1 (21) does this too.

Buy yourself some nice mugs and lock them away. Do not provide paper cups. The little peasants can drink out of the tap when they run out of communal mugs.

Remove about half the communal mugs from stock so they run out faster. When I met DH he still did this (he was 30) and he was only cured by me locking away about 40 mugs so he only had three and had to wash them up.

I knew someone who put one item of crockery aside for each family member,and wrote their names on it with permanent marker.If the plate/bowl/cup with their name on it wasn't in the kitchen,they didn't get served up with anything until it was.

Drastic,but effective

We have this problem, in small part due to eldest son (14) but mostly down to me and my line up of glasses of water by my bed.

I wait for dh to deal with them

I have noticed in America there seems to be a culture of using disposable plates and cups as a matter of course. They have entire aisles in the supermarkets devoted to them.

Seriously, if you buy paper cups you will just get bedrooms full of paper cups full of rotting shite, which will spill more easily and then you will end up cleaning carpets. The only way is not to have so many mugs. Let them run out.

Paper cups is a no go then, Just had ds (17) down moaning that I had moaned at him and not his sister so told him I will be getting them each a plastic cup in different colours and that would be theirs to use,

They are so lazy, my son will even use a wine glass for orange juice if that's all that there in the cupboard, I work untill ten so they mostly have to sort out their own dinner and stuff but no matter how many times I tell (nag) them they just cannot see the logic in bringing down the used stuff and washing it,

Just told my son they were better and did more when they were little and he said "well we all change as we get older" wtf!

Just had a thought, Does anyone know of a shop or website where I can get decent sized plastic glasses with names on, there will be no need for confusion then, I can get them a couple each (wash one, use one),

Would need to be place you can personalise the name yourself as the spelling of my ds's name is not that unuasal but can never buy things off the shelf with it,

Scratch their names on the base. That's what the guides do on camp. Or use nail varnish.

Seriously, don't make this alternative system too nice for them. You want them to see the point of co operating with the normal system.

Trying to think back to how I domesticated DS1. I am pretty sure that by 17 I did not clear out his room, and things were washed if they were in the dishwasher, otherwise not. I suppose he must have just cracked one day and washed something he needed.

As you are the busy one here, perhaps do nothing? Rather than give yourself work buying them more stuff to be ungrateful about, just lock your own things away and let the DC fester. They will work it out eventually.

20 & 17??? Get yourself a nice set to use And leave them to their filth!! Do not wash up and do not nag them to bring it down. When they say "there are no pots" smile and say "oh dear" and carry on reading/watching tv or whatever!!!

Why are you trying every possible solution other than to insist they stop treating you like shit?

If you're out at work until 10pm, they should have the plates/cups and dinner things washed up and put away.

If you don't get a grip on this now, they're going to make absolutely useless partners/parents one day.

Just seen the eldest is 20. She's not a child, she is far too old for you to be buying her special plastic cups with her name on them. Nor should you be feeling grateful that an adult deigns to look after herself while you are out at work till 10pm providing her with a (I would guess free) roof over her head.

I think everyone here advises you to stop enabling them to carry as babies, lock away your own mugs/ glasses and leave them to it. But for the 20 year old, who should be ashamed to be such a slob, I would send her a link to this ;)