to take this with a pinch of salt? wedding outfit related

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My cousin is getting married in a few weeks (lovely girl, very happy for them etc) but... we were out for lunch at the weekend - me, the bride and a few other female friends and relatives when the bride gave us a list of colors to avoid when picking our outfits for the wedding so that we don't 'clash with' the bridesmaids, mother of the bride, mother of the groom and 2 grandmas!

I just nodded but i already have address from another wedding we've been to. It 'clashes' with the rooms gran. Aibu to ignore the rule?!

Argh - colours, a dress, the groom... Terrible phone typing!

Yanbu. That is a bit crazy - the groom's gran?! Who cares if you clash with anyone anyway - you're not part of the wedding party are you? (Ie you're not a bridesmaid or usher. ..?) surely she doesnt expect all her guests to buy a new outfit ?

How many colours are on the list?

Asking your nearest and dearest to avoid the colour of the bridesmaids dresses is vaguely acceptable, but if she is taking five different colours out of your options, she is crazy.

Consider wearing white.

Yanbu I don't understand dictating what the guests wear to a wedding. She might think it's important now, but I would imagine that on the day she won't notice what people are wearing.

Without looking at photos I can't remember what everyone wore to my wedding, and I certainly didn't notice on the day (apart from the partner of DH's friend who wore a white dress).

Yip - 5 different colours (red, green, dark pink, light pink and beige)

And I'm just a normal guest, not part of the wedding party!

My dress is dark pink and I'm too skint to buy another one!

YANBU, just wear the pink dress and ignore her, she is mad.

Ignore and wear whatchoo want.

I have posted elsewhere this week about bridezilla sil and her diktat to not clash with her tiffany blue theme. My sister and I ignored. What can they do? Send ya home? I think not! Silly bride.

ignore. Who does she think she is?

I agree that the bride won't care what you are wearing on the day, even if it seems important to her now. Wear the dress you have, and I'm sure you will look lovely.

I remember having a bridezilla moment before my wedding when I discovered my DHs mum was going to wear the same colour as the bridesmaids after she had been asked to avoid that one, but even then I had enough sense to keep it to myself. Which I'm relieved about now, seeing as it didn't matter in the slightest!

YANBU!

I can understand asking people to avoid wearing the colour of the bridesmaids, but to give a list of five colours to avoid? That just seems ridiculous, especially to do so just a few weeks in advance when, reasonably, a lot of people will have already bought their outfits. Just wear your dress, I'd be surprised if you are the only person to turn up in either red, green, pink or beige.

Fingers crossed your dark pink dress might even be identical to the groom's gran

Wear the dress. It will spoil her day far less than het having a hissy fit in public to protest.

Haha Chester - she's about 100 so I'd be gutted!

"This? This isn't dark pink, it's magenta/puce/dusky rose/"

Yanbu. Smile and nod, she'll get over herself soon :)

Fab advice Purple...off to Google pretentious paint colours!

Fairly certain there's no risk of you being confused with the groom's gran either, very different to accidentally matching the bridesmaids or something!

:o

'DS threw up over my dove grey geown - I'm afraid i had to get this out at the last minute ...'

Oh my god. I would turn up in my wedding dress, it being the only dress I have cnvebiently not in.the banned list.

Glad to hear I'm not just being arsey :-)

Oh dear my two wedding grade dresses are beige with red, pink and purple flowers or white with green flowers.

I think she is being daft.

Yip - 5 different colours (red, green, dark pink, light pink and beige)

so you can wear blue grey or yellow then

just wear what you want wedding fever has taken over the poor girl it happens to the nicest of women , I can see not clashing with the bridesmaids and bride but everybody else nah,

So you could wear a white or black dress then as they are not banned colours.

Go for it, ignore her she is stressing about something that isn't important, at my wedding I became aware of a lot of bitching about my new sister in laws outfit, from my family and some friends from both sides, I couldn't work it out, I thought it was because it was a trouser suit, I have to say it was lovely, no turns out the issue was the outfit was ivory with lace at the top, apparently it is bad form for lady guests to wear, Ivory, cream or white as that is what the bride wears, i was incredulous, for a start she wasn't the bride and there fore anybody who mattered would be aware I was the bride, unless I have a very stupid family! secondly I was wearing yellow princess dress (I say yellow it was gold but in the wedding shop amongst the white of the other dresses it screamed yellow ;) )!!! so not exactly stealing my thunder and my sister in law was aware of the colour I was wearing.

I think the only rules for guests dress at a wedding should be are be smart, be decent, be comfortable, if you happen to know the colour of the bridesmaids dresses avoid that colour, but bridesmaid dresses tend to be a block of colour so just having that colour in your clothes doesn't count.

I can't believe what pains some brides can be, it is a day and the less you care about the small stuff the more you can enjoy it, the best thing about my wedding was it was the one time in my life, I had all the important, amazing people in my life all in one room and I was so proud to finally introduce people to each other