I KNOW I'm being unreasonable but still let me sound off about DH and his sick relative...

[NarkyNamechanger]

Today is a family occasion for someone on my side of the family. Dh can't come due to work but the plan was to meet at the reception afterwards. I'm a little miffed he hasn't taken annual leave but his choice of course.

His elderly relative has been poorly for about a week. Dh had some rest days during the week but although phoned every day, decided he wouldn't visit.

He has now just called to say he's going to visit after work today instead. He says he'll still come on after to the reception but we both know it'll be too late to bother and I will probably even end up home before him.

As I said I know it's me who's unreasonable but still, I feel better for moaning. :)

I'd be pissed off at having to attend a wedding solo (if it's that sort of occasion), I think. Does your DH have form for avoiding your family?

I don't think YABU, unless there has been a change in his relatives condition, or the relative particularly needs a visit today. I would expect my DH to come if that's what he said he was going to do and nothing has changed since then.

you sure that is where he is going?

I'd be mildly irritated by this. YANBU.

Yabu to be miffed he won't take waste annual leave yanbu he is ditching the reception for a non urgent visit.

Sounds to me like he just doesn't want to go and has a couple of plausible excuses to use (work and relative) that paint you to be the bad guy if you question it.

Not proud to admit it but I've done the same thing, when really I should have put my big girl pants on and gone to something that was important to DP.

Not really sure of the point of that little confession but no, YANBU, your in a checkmate position of knowing deep down what he's up to but no way to verbalise it without looking like a bitch. You know what he's doing, he knows what he's doing - it's a shitty thing to do to someone.

It's a christening so I understand not really wanting to take annual leave but yes, he doesn't really want to go and look like the bitch for saying 'that's convenient'.

And yes I'm sure that's where he's going? what a strange thing to say.

Could he not come to the christening first, and then visit his relative this evening? Or doesn't that work due to geography?

Yes he could have me that.

No he didn't come in the end (no surprise ) but I've said my piece to him and so it's done with. Hey ho.