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AIBU?

To be annoyed about friend's behaviour?

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Obviouslyanamechange · 03/08/2013 16:45

Regular, name changed.

This has been praying on my mind for a few weeks. Went for a bottle or two glass of wine at friends, there was a group of us there who get together on a regular basis....with kids/without/with husbands etc.

Having a lovely time, chatting, laughing etc. one of our friends wasn't there, let's call her A. Friend B and I were having a dance. I stupidly asked her something that had been on my mind nosey for a while.

I asked friend B why she goes round to Bs in the day for alchol with Dcs in tow......because I did this with A and B once and did not enjoy it. I couldn't relax, the Dcs did quite a bit of damage.....let DS's pet rat out.....weed on DS (9) Lego collection and broke models up. Also, they are quite open about the Dcs running riot, getting out of the house etc while they drink. The Dcs are 5.

I know I shouldn't of said it but was curious. Anyway B was livid, ranted on and on.... Shouted at me when I tried to calm her down then when I burst into tears she said say thank you when she comforted me..... I was a bit taken back and felt uncomfortable so didn't say anything, she then repeated sternly say thank you... I did.

Aibu to be angry and find the thank you think odd?

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Vivacia · 03/08/2013 17:06

"I did speak to them about the Dcs behaviour."

I was wondering if you asked about their arrangements because there were still things left unsaid from the havoc they caused at yours. Why had this been praying on your mind do you think?

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Obviouslyanamechange · 03/08/2013 17:08

viva I don't think so. I think it's because I don't get it.

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LineRunner · 03/08/2013 17:11

How did your house and stuff get trashed at A's house?

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Vivacia · 03/08/2013 17:12

Didn't you understand it in some way to have taken part previously?

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imademarion · 03/08/2013 17:13

This entire series of posts is why I no longer drink.

Weed on Lego? What larks.

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xylem8 · 03/08/2013 17:15

Have I got this right? So, the first time they all came round to yours, you served them drink(?)or they brought drink and everyone got pissed , your house got trashed and you didn't like it.Then next time the 2 of them did it without you, and you asked them why?

1)a 5 yr old should know better than to piss over somebody else's lego and let their pets out whether or not they are b eing supervised.Maybe they were acting out, because they were frightened by their mums being drunk (and possibly loud)

2) If you have been involved with it once, I think it is a bit rich to then call them on it.

3) I can understand whu she cried but have absolutely no idea why you had to thank her.

you all sound a bit bonkers to me!

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BeKindToYourKnees · 03/08/2013 17:17

Tired and emotional, OP?

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MonstrousPippin · 03/08/2013 17:17

I don't know what you expected her to say to the question of why.

Surely the only reason why she'd continue to meet up for a drink with A is because she enjoys it, unless you thought you were going to get some elaborate blackmail plot that forces B to drink wine with A with her DC there?

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Obviouslyanamechange · 03/08/2013 17:29

Nope I don't understand...because I didn't enjoy it. I wasnt calling her out on it...just stupid curious.

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Obviouslyanamechange · 03/08/2013 17:31

Ha monstrous who knows?

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Obviouslyanamechange · 03/08/2013 17:32

Have Mners gleaned enough info to give the verdict?

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Vivacia · 03/08/2013 17:48

I can understand why you didn't enjoy it (we're another alcohol-free household) but you must have some insight in to the attraction 'cos you did it at least once. What got you to try it?

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scarletforya · 03/08/2013 17:58

Sounds like she felt judged and felt you were trying to rub it in about the previous episode I reckon.

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ENormaSnob · 03/08/2013 18:01

I blame wendy.

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DoJo · 03/08/2013 19:01

Presumably if you were drunk enough to ask her a question which could really only have had one answer, she was drunk enough to respond in a way that was a bit OTT and weird. Perhaps you both need to recognise that sharing after drinking doesn't work for either of you and just start afresh!

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Oblomov · 03/08/2013 19:06

Op is clearly deluded. She said ' I didn't call her on it, I was just curious'.
Er no, you did call her on it, in a really judgemental way. How you can not see this, is beyond me.

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Oblomov · 03/08/2013 19:11

They were drinking at your house. Their kids misbehaved and you didn't like it. But you were drinking too. Not as much as them. 2 glasses, instead of 2 bottles. But you still drank.
And then on top of all of this, the WAY you asked her ' why are you still doing this , when it was do shit when we did it'.
You sound like a complete nutter.
And yes , I drink , with my nursery mum friends , at lunchtime , whilst having 6 kids jumping in and out of paddling pool etc.
I certainly wouldn't invite you again. You sound like a snobby judgemental bore.

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ThePowerof3 · 03/08/2013 19:17

It reads to me like the pet rat weed on OPs DS rather than the friends DCs pissing on lego

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 03/08/2013 19:22

I have no idea what this is thread about. Am I alone in this?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 03/08/2013 19:26

I think your friend was a bit wierd for demanding you thank her. And....do people with small children often get drunk during the day while said children run riot??

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FunLovinBunster · 03/08/2013 19:28

I think you're all fucking nuts.

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FunLovinBunster · 03/08/2013 19:29

I am referring to OP and "friends"

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FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin · 03/08/2013 19:30

Oblomov, I thought you were coming out as B! :o

(or is it A...?)

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Viviennemary · 03/08/2013 19:33

You all sound a bit mad to me. Why not cut out the wine and stick to sparkling water and see if that improves things. If not time to call it a day with these friendships.

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GreyWhites · 03/08/2013 19:39

As far as I can see, there are a lot of people getting very drunk and very emotional and not really making a lot of sense. You ask why your friend behaved in this way, I think the answer really is: booze.

Drunkenly questioning your friend's motives for associating with another friend clearly offended her, but the fact that the pair of you were 3 sheets to the wind at the time meant that the conversation got out of hand.

Clearly the answer is not to get so hammered. Or if you do, don't waste too much time wondering why everyone is behaving so strangely and why things get so chaotic.

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