aibu ? bottle if juice.

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Preparing to be flamed by the 'I did it and my kids survived' brigade here.

DH is an awesome fun dad ..but sometimes he really lacksa bit Iif common sense imo.

We choose to parent a certain way and are happy to admit we probably give off a pfb vibe sometimes.
DD was bf for 16 months when my milk dried up for various reasons.

She enjoys warm milk in a bottle, before bed. This us somthing we are making a conscious effort to discourage now she's older (the bottle not the milk)

Came home from work to find he'd given her pure orange juice in her bottle before bed as he'd ran out of milk. I wasn't impressed and put my point across.

1. we are supposed to be ditching the bottle. .no milk? no bottle!
2. Hello. ..juice swishing around her teeth before bed, shes hardly enthusiastic about cleaning her teeth anyways!
3. She CAN drink from open cups..sippy cups...straw cups.

no need.

1. Pure orange juice? at least water it down!!!
2. its a personal pet hate squash/juice in bottles.

OH thinks im being unreasonable. It transpires his mother told him to do it (no surprise. .his family give nephew cups of tea ..hes three. it disgusts me)

am I? surly he's just stupid.

You are being slightly ridiculous (by the way - it's ridiculous not rediculous - HTH) and sooner or later you're going to have to unclench. Also - tea is not crack cocaine ok? Or absinthe. It's just a cup of tea. It was only a bit of orange juice. Nobody's dead. Take a few of the grips you've bee offered and do yourself a big favour.

It's a one off and by the sounds of it he wouldn't dare do it again.
As for giving your toddler a brew, well I probably wouldn't choose to but I would hardly call it disgusting.

(ps - can anyone tell me how to get the crumb of toast out from under my N key? Seriously - it's beginnig to annoy me now!)

blow it? Hairdryer? Shake your keyboard vigourously?

Tbh I'd concentrate more on your communication with your Dh. If u have a plan together we wouldnt have to ring his mum. If you want your Dd off bottles, get rid of them. If they're not there they cant be used. Also let your Dh know what you think are acceptable drinks, does he agree, have a joint agreed plan.
Grandparents are never going to be 100% the way you'd like them to be but a one off oj before bed is not going to scar your child for life and you need not let it impact your Dd and Dhs (or yours!) relationship with his mum.

You are DISGUSTED by a three year old having tea?

Bonkers.

Calmly explain that neat juice isn't ideal at the best of times and leave it at that. I bet there are things you do OP as a parent that are less than optimal.

This is something totally silly to get wound up about.

It's not like he was jacking her up with crack, is it?

uniqueandamazing ..your totally getting me.

Perhaps I am pfb and OTT but whilst some might not consider it an issue if it doesn't immediately harm them..my thinking bis what's the point in giving her somthing non beneficial when she doesn't care for it otherwise? Whatever tiny amount of goodness is in tea is contracted by the caffeine and tannin and general crap. .the benefits can be easily found in better foods. There is just no need for children to have tea at all imo.

Claimedbyme, we preferred not to use bottles at all but she finds comfort in one before bed now there is no boob. She is just over two. Without going into too much detail I have been lenient with it as she has hard a hard time recently, but as mentioned its somthing we are phasing out.

As for the tea thing. Get over it, honestly.

Perhaps if you didn't treat your DH like he was stupid, he'd have the confidence to form some of his own opinions rather than blindly following his mother's advice.

Treat someone like they're incapable and they will generally act that way.

Ds2 loves a cup of tea and the iron thing is only an issue if it is drunk with the food, an hour after iron rich food and it isn't a problem as far as I have read. As a one off, the juice thing would not have bothered me and I think it is unfair to say he needs to grow some balls because he took some advice from his mum, do you never take advice from someone else? I know I do, and I am sure there is advice that I have taken that dh doesn't agree with in the same way as he has taken advice that I do not agree with.

Meh it was a one off and I say that as a hater of juice in a bottle but its hardly going to do any harm.

U&A and OP, you are singing from the same totally misinformed and rather embarrassing hymn sheet.

On and what Ling says - although I suspect the OP and her MIL like it that way. People are strange.

Also just to point out again.. DH is an awesome dad and we parent as a team, he only thinks it unreasonable because it was suggested by his mum iyswim, cos obviously your own mum can do no wrong. . rolls eyes

Really not working myself up over this guys..just thought I'd ask mn opinion. .

general feeling is that im silly for not wanting my girls teeth to rot and clearly insane for merely pointing this out to dh.

well..there you go! all sorted... ill get back to being unreasonable now..

One bottle of juice isn't going to make her teeth rot.

I assume you ensure she brushes her teeth well? So stop getting upset about 1 bottle

She doesn't. .Its a fight..every.single.day.

When you say "juice swishing around her teeth before bed" you do realise milk has sugar in it too, don't you? You should be cleaning her teeth after the bottle of milk before she goes to sleep.

A cup of tea at 3 is better than a bottle at over 2 IMO.

I think general view is your silly for over reacting,for treating your dh as if he's stupid,and for thinking child having tea is disgusting!

and the point of posting was?

seriously throw ot the bottles, she is too old for them

I thought milk was sugary anyway?

It's a MIL thing isn't it OP?

Piss up your Husband's leg next time she visits

That'll teach her to give him advice when he asks for it

Well, in fairness, your original post screamed patronising; the way you listed all the ways in which he had fucked up by giving her juice and even included a 'hello??' for good measure.

Juice in a bottle ISN'T great, of course it's not. But it's hardly worth calling your other half 'stupid' over. Perhaps if you let him be more than 'awesome fun dad' he'd step up and be 'responsible common sense dad' too.

As a dentist I would like to say you are absolutely right! Juice In a bottle (especially before bed) is really awful and I see the results in my surgery every day. Fair enough if he doesn't do it again but please let him know it really is not okay as a regular thing. Even milk isn't great before bed in a bottle, but it is difficult if they're used to it (mine was to be fair). Its all very well for people to say get over it, but it really is something to avoid! Tea I do avoid with mine because of the iron but I wouldn't say it's 'disgusting' as it is quite common.

malcolm .. You need a can of air duster. It is a pressurised can of air that blasts away crumbs and dust from IT equipment.

Check out your local IT business, they will have them! About £2.

HTH!