To put a note up..

[Soontobemama]

On the main front door to ask the other tenants not to slam the door?

I live in a ground floor flat in a large converted house and there are 4 other flats. Since bring in maternity leave and therefore home every day I am being driven demented by the constant comings and goings of the other tenants. It's only 2 of the other flats but they are in and out all day long, or have visitors in and out and every time they slam the main front door.

Our bedroom is on the other side of the wall so the noise starts when people start going to work and will go on all day and into the evening. I know I can't object to how often they seem to need to come in and out but would I be rude to put a note up asking them to try not to slam the door?

YANBU. You mention Mat leave - have you had your baby? Because then you could put a nice 'Ssssh, please dont slam, it'll wake the baby' type note up?

No I've not had the baby yet but the constant door slamming is worrying me as it may mean that neither of us can get any daytime sleep.

I can't see anyone should object to the request. A great big smiley face at the end may be useful.

Just put a sign up, something like 'please take care not to slam the door'

And then when baby gets here 'Baby sleeping - please take care not to slam the door'

With a picture like <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=blogs.swa-jkt.com/swa/10318/files/2012/11/th_SleepingBabyCartoon.jpeg&imgrefurl=blogs.swa-jkt.com/swa/10318/2012/11/&h=138&w=160&sz=4&tbnid=SAswqjMcEXFbzM:&tbnh=87&tbnw=101&prev=/search%3Fq%3Dsleeping%2Bbaby%2Bcartoon%26tbm%3Disch%26tbo%3Du&zoom=1&q=sleeping+baby+cartoon&usg=__nTps4epRUylmNcoRMf-JVfOk_I4=&docid=bwS4_Wl24_pcdM&sa=X&ei=jbj7Ud_MF9HA7AaSwoHQAw&ved=0CDsQ9QEwBA&dur=337" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this maybe?

Totally non-confrontational.

You should knock on their door and ask them. Notes make people hostile.

Is there building management? Could you get/offer to pay for a slow-closer so it can't slam?

I think I'd actually go round with a big smile and say "sorry, this is going to sound silly but..." etc. Good way to get on talking terms with your neighbours. I don't like notes because I always get paranoid they're aimed at me and would infinitely rather someone came round and spoke to me if there was a prob.

I must admit that I'd worry that they would react to a note by slamming more often and harder. But then I am a pessimist with a hint or paranoia so my opinion can probably be disregarded.

ChunkyPickle that is a superb idea.

Good Luck with that.

I put a note on my surgery door (NHS Health Centre) with
Date
Please take a Seat
Do Not Knock
Thank You

AND SOME BUGGER ALWAYS,ALWAYS KNOCKS
or WALKS RIGHT IN

The note is eye level. On the door that they knock on.

"Oh, I didn't know there was anyone in" they say.

Head:Desk.

Probably best to ask face to face .

I definitely wouldn't put anything about waking a baby when it is here if they have been kept up by said baby crying all night......

Paying for a slow closer is a great idea.

Our managing agent are crap so I can't rely on them to sort anything out.

We get on fine with the neighbours when we see them but we rarely do. I'm assuming its only 2 of the flats doing it as the others have other ways of accessing their flats. I don't want to single them out though in case it's not just them.

If I didn't know one of the flats was a you g family I would be starting to wonder what was going on. There were 6 door slams in the space of just one hour earlier today.

With the way the house is split up and because we have really high ceilings its only the neighbours above who would be able to hear the baby once it arrives. So only one lot of neighbours that we may potentially annoy.

A slow closer is a good idea unless you are worried about security. Is the door draught proofed? If it isn't and you get it done it could help.

I'd be annoyed by a slow closer on the front door if I lived in a block of flats. Probably more annoyed by someone with a wailing baby . At least that doesn't last forever.

I'm a checker so I'd want to make sure it locked behind me. Also I wouldn't want to take the chance of someone nipping in after me. Because I'm a good citizen I'd feel obliged to wait around, angrily trying to tug it shut and cursing you for getting it installed.

Just speak to them. If they're nice people they'll go: 'Oops! Sorry.' Then you can put up a note for visitors and no one will take offence.

If they're not nice people, they'll ignore your note anyway, or worse, slam the door out of childish spite.

Sorry, I meant to write: 'Probably more annoyed by that, than with someone with a wailing baby.'

I think a note will have the opposite effect really. People might take as being passive aggressive rather than the polite note you intend it to be and react negatively.

Also, it sounds like you're a leaseholder or a renter. The freeholder might ignore you about the slow closer for reasons of insurance or cost.

Or possibly the freeholder will have their own company to do the work and he or she will stick it on the service charge as an upgrade of works to the communal parts. That won't make you popular with your fellow leaseholders or your landlord - whichever applies.

Managing agents are universally crap. IME the only thing they're really good at is doing unnecessary works that they can charge 15-25 per cent on.

Just talk to your neighbours.

My god I wish I lived in the sort of flats where you could put a note up like that. I'm in the exact same situation as you, ground floor flat, about to have a baby, neighbours slam the shitting door all through the day and night. Only difference is, if I were to put that note up they would 100% definitely slam it harder or I would find that note containing a dog shit on my doorstep I would imagine.

I'd wind your neck in .Just remember you are soon going to have a bundle regularly making noise at anti social hours!!

Bit rude xylem8.

Like I said before the only people who have any chance of hearing our baby is our upstairs neighbours and only then in one or two rooms. It's a very old mansion house with big rooms and high ceilings. The way the building has been divided means that noise doesn't really carry between flats.

Our other neighbour has a baby and you'd never know. They apologised for the noise when they moved in and everybody told them they hadn't heard a peep.

Anyway I've realised that its one set of newly moved in neighbours that are responsible for the constant door slamming of late. They appear to have 6 or 7 people staying with them so I'm hoping once they go it may calm down. Otherwise I am going to have to speak to them. Today has been ridiculous with how much coming and going there has been so the door has been slammed every ten
Minutes or so.

Can't you try putting a bit of foam insulating tape around the door jam to lessen the thud.

A slow closer would work. If its adjusted properly it wouldn't make much odds to how long the door takes to close.

I don't think asking people not to slam the door will work that well in the long term.