To ask next door to keep the noise down?

[Bumblebee78]

We live in an end terrace, and everyone round us has small kids, including us, all except for our next door neighbours. Every few months they have a house party. They don't say anything about having one and are usually really quiet, up until the early hours of the morning when they crank up the karioke for a couple of hours, scream-shouting into the mic.

The music is so loud, i can sing along and sometimes wakes the kids up too. Most often we ignore it but the last two times i have been round to ask them to keep it down a bit. The first time they didnt answer the door, probably couldnt hear me for the music!

They are generally nice neighbours and we are lucky they don't have parties every weekend, but when they are finished partying they can stay in bed, whereas we are up at 6 with the baby!

Am i being a mardy bum? I ended up feeling like a nag all weekend. I havent seen them since and dont know how to tackle it as i dont want to pretend it didnt happen and it be the white elephant in the garden.

Any thoughts?

I would send your kids out nice and early to play in the back garden tomorrow morning.

Or put 'The Wheels On The Bus' on loop at 7am.

what about the neighbours on other side of them? dont they say something?

no excuse for late night rave-ups as theres supposed to be laws about it but if they are the only ones without children maybe they have to endure childrens crying/screaming/playing etc etc?

doesnt your baby wake them with its crying?

is say have a compromise-cant believe im saying this as i get this with neighbours too but mine are shitheads at the best of times. but you say theyre nice so maybe they could warn you in advance and set a time limit too. but if youre the only one to complain it will fall on deaf ears so id ask neighbours on other side of them what they think.

Oooh I too would be revenging in the morning

If the neighbors have to put up with loud children every day/night then surely you can put up with loud neighbors every few months?

Yes, i do think that they must hear our kids whinging and that cant be nice. However, they are kids and dont know about social etiquette, whereas adults should. The neighbours the other side are really close to them, beers over the fence and all that. However, they will moan to me about them but rely on me, the mardy one to sort it out for everyone. Im surprised they didnt say anything this time as their son had been in hospital for an operation that day, but they did let their dogs out yapping extra early.

I just dont want to be two faced and would rather just clear the air without being patronising or confrontational.

Thanks for the advice so far!

I'd still be inclined to suck it up if it wasn't a weekly occurrence. Having lived next to someone who did the same as your neighbour every weekend I'm thankful that I now live where I do

How often does it happen?