To make dp walk!!!

[Joanne279]

Urgh! After the while mil thing on Tuesday I can't believe after 6 months of his mum not wanting to see the kids that he still wants a relationship with her and goes up thrre like nothing is wrong.

AIBU to take a stand and say if you want to go and see this nasty witch, you walk. Don't ask for a lift there or back!

Dp doesn't drive btw. I feel like a taxi to a woman who excluded me and his kids!

Or am I just being a bit petty?

I think if the woman refuses to see you or the kids I'd be buggered if I would meekly drive him to her house and then pick him up again.

If he is going to see her he needs to call a taxi or make other arrangements.

And I'd be pissed off with him for having the gall to expect it.

YANBU or petty.

Dont.know history, sorry

Cant he take bus/train, taxi, bike there if too far to walk

she's his mum. Does she drive? How far is it? walking is good for you!

She drives but don't drop him off or pick him up.

YABU to expect him not to see his mum. YANBU to make him walk there!

Here's a funny suggestion....

Stop being a rude witch yourself and support your husband you wants a relationship with his mother. Who are you to dictate that you won't allow him a relationship with his mother by refusing to take him. How childish.

I loathe my mother in law, but I would never ever stop dh having a relationship with her. You need to be the adult here, be the bigger person.

I'm not stopping him having a relationship with her but why do I have to drive him around?

Who said anything about me not wanting him to see her?

Stopping....no. But refusing to drive him because you don't want him to see her is practically the same thing. I hope you end up getting a DIL just like you.

He wants a relationship with his mother, even forgiving her go not seeing the kids, your the only one making it an issue for him.

You must realize you r not being supportive and by saying your bit going to take him is childish

Nah, I wouldn't drive him op. His mother can come and pick him up.

Wow! Have you looked at the previous thread my2cents?

I looked at the previous thread. Make him walk.

Can you link the original thread? X

Joanne, I think you should've linked to your previous thread. I think posters would be more inclined to agree with you if they had the background.

FWIW, YANBU!

Yep, read the other thread, Yanbu. Did you talk to FIL in the end?

YANBU Your dp is an adult who should be more than capable of getting himself from a to b.

Why are posters saying that the OP in refusing to give her dp a lift is stopping him from having a relationship with his mother? If a grown man cannot make his own way then he's pathetic.

You are the poster whose eldest child is very upset that they no longer see granny because granny refuses to see them?

On the grounds that your kids are too young to stay at home alone I'm guessing they would have to come too for the drop off and pick up?

Which seems pretty cruel to a child who is desperate to see granny and won't understand why they are at granny's house but they can't go in.

So no, YANBU. In fact YWBU to give him a lift IMO.

Yes I am that poster and I don't know how to link the original thread. I can't cope with this stupid situation much more.

It's dragged me down for 6 long months and I can't cope eith anymore.

Thanks for your opinions everyone x

I really feel for you Joanne279, it is absolutely horrible dealing with someone so completely unreasonable and totally unprepared to give an inch. You've done nothing wrong, I really do think your DP is being very unfair and disloyal. It is a very depressing and wearing. I think all you can do is cut yourself off from her and refuse to facilitate your Dh's visits.