Feel like I should defend myself whilst I de-lurk/mark my spot...
I did use STD cards BUT appropriately.
I did have someone not invited decorate the venue BUT she volunteered. And I sent a proper thank you note etc.
I did go on Confetti & Hitched or whatever sites BUT hopefully retained my sense of perspective & gaffawed at many of the bizarre ideas. Like spending £90 on a tiara to wear in my hair for 1 day when one from Claires or Accesorize worked as well... And NEVER went on the forums.
Oh and one of my friends who had been asked to do a reading dropped out on morning of the wedding :(
Anyway...