AIBU or is DH

[ditsydoll]

I have an 8 week old ds and 4.5 yo DD.
Iv got a nasty virus and have stayed in bed thismorning, I have gotton up to feed ds but with a high temp, off stomach and sore throat I really haven't had the energy to get dressed.
Dh has decided to invite his friend round without telling me, I'm still sat here in my pjs (lazy cow) feeling utterly rough and would prefer if he asked hos friend to come another day or at least let me know he's coming.

Aibu to be miffed? He said I should be grateful he's been up with the kids, which I am but does that mean I should have to entertain guests while sick? Surely he realises they're his children too!

Before you consider LTB or whatever, you do need to lay it on the line for him. Tell him exactly how much sleep you get, how much rest, how many breaks and tell him it cannot carry on.

In our house we (well I did, now DH does) refer to stuff like washing the car as 'baby avoidance tasks'. Jokingly not. It means that DH does think about it. He will say, "I'm mowing the lawn, it needs doing, I promise it's not a baby avoidance task". He can't say that if it is.

BTW you doing the washing up regardless of who cooks is shitty. It is treating you like a servant and I wouldn't have it. I don't know why but it just seems so Lord and Master.

BLoc at "baby avoidance tasks"

DH was "helping" with housework one day by arranging the baby's wardrobe outfits in size order and making quite a mission of it.

I'm sure it had nothing to do with the fact that at the same time DD was refusing to have a nap and bellowing in my face about it...

Slightly off topic but if you have flu like symptoms, are you sure you don't have mastitis? Are you breast feeding? Are your boobs in pain?

Go back to bed after telling him if baby needs feeding he can bring it up but do not engage, do not argue.

When he brings baby up for feed, feed it and then take it back down.

If he kicks off at any point, just say, I am ill, they are your children, step up and be a proper father and a decent, caring, supportive husband because there is a fuck load more to it than paying the bills. Shut up, turn and leave.

Well for now, you are ill, go to bed. His friend can help him look after the kids. Don't even think of 'entertaining' anyone! Just leave them to it. Feed the baby, that's all you actually need to do.