to be mildly pissed of with DP

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Well I am whether IABU or not.

DP works late afternoons and evenings, he took the job when I became pregnant (complicated pregnancy) so it suits our family life and he can help with the 3 DCs (under 6yrs old) during the day.

Yesterday he told me he has decided to take overtime today so will be working from 9am until 10pm tonight.

I'm not happy, the only reason he has taken it is "to help them out" not for the money or any other reason.

IABU to think taking this overtime just because, when I am nearly 38weeks pregnant during the school holidays when I have look after 3 bored DCs under 6yrs old by myself is a bit thoughtless.

It doesn't help the weather being lovely for the first time in ages and except the garden we cannot go anywhere as I have severe SPD and cannot walk more than 100yds and DP of course has the car.

I'd say ywbu.
I'm a tough old boot and this wouldn't phase me as a one off. It's extra money and in my world that's always a yes please.

Perhaps my priorities are different to yours in that respect...maybe the extra cash isn't as important to you.

I would get settled in the garden with pillows and a book. Takeaway for tea.

Totally agree with pictish

Plus, some companies treat employees who "help them out" with a bit more flexibility than ones who just stick to their job description etc etc so it does work both ways too.

Just get yourself in the garden, feet in a bowl of water and chill and let the kids entertain themselves and each other.

A 13 hour day is a long working day, cut him some slack.]

Eh, he wouldn't be offering to do a 13 hour shift without a good reason. Being willing to take on overtime is a good thing and will benefit him in the future. My DP does overtime at work (early starts/later finishes) and the occasional Saturday morning, and it means when he has commitments and stuff to sort, his boss is willing to give him the time off, whereas other employees who aren't so flexible are made to take unpaid leave/holiday to sort it out.

Relax in the garden, get a takeaway in for dinner and try and think of the long-term benefits.

YANBU. I remember having spd with DD2 and I would be in tears after going up and down the stairs to empty dd1's potty.

I see your point of view about being on your own all day, but just do as little as you can possibly get away with x

I'm pregnant too and it's obviously much harder looking after other wee ones when you're having a poorly day. Don't feel bad about them having a day at home we've had loads of those recently and no one has suffered :)

DH works Saturdays too sometimes and from my point of view I don't like it as it doesn't "feel" like the weekend on those weeks, but it's all for the greater good and hopefully will pay off when he's applying for a promotion. He'd much rather be at home too but he's doing it for all of us so I feel I'd be wrong to complain.

poor bloke

Livinginwonderland believe me the reason stated is the reason he is doing it.

Ok IABU just midly annoyed because the DCs know they can run rings around me at the moment and I can't do much about it.
Sitting in the garden is the plan but apprently that's boring to DCs.

Doesn't help that my midwife doesn't think I'll go to my due date and can go into labour any point and anything like last time it will be a quick labour, if I'm on my own with 3 DCs it won't be am easy task.

Well, I think YANBU - had SPD myself and it was utter agony, and I wouldn't have been safe to care for small children solo.

Just to clarify I don't actually think being mildly pissed off is unreasonable in your circumstance!

What's SPD?

SPD = symphis pubic displacement (or something like that). Basically the pelvis shifts apart very very slightly and it means that you get a LOT of pain in your hips. When I had it with dd2 I had to stop driving (too painful to change gear), couldn't walk far, stairs were agony, ended up with crutches and I remember one trip to Chester Zoo where Dh had to push me round in a wheelchair. I spent Mon-Fri for weeks sat in the house with dd1 basically entertaining herself/watching tv. Sat/Sun we had short trips out and I spent most of the time walking like a 90yo clinging on to Dh.

Dysfunction, not displacement.

Where you get the pain depends on your particular physiology: I had achey hips but agonising stabbing pain through my pubic bone. Stupidly I did my best to carry on as normal, and the result has been permanent damage. It is something you need to take seriously if you get it.