to think he doesn't need or want a birthday party

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SuperMariosSister · 01/08/2013 08:55

am I the most evil mother in the world for not doing a birthday party for ds 5 , ds doesn't think so but the rest of family seem too. his family will probably come up to see him on the day, he has a party in the afternoon for cousins birthday and wants to go on the train somewhere a few days later ( can't afford to do party and train trip) . feeling really mean after being guilt tripped by gparents

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Groovee · 01/08/2013 08:57

Tell the grandparents, if they want a party, they can pay for it!

ZillionChocolate · 01/08/2013 09:02

He doesn't need a party. GP's are being ridiculous. Can their child (you/DP) remember every single birthday party? I'm struggling to remember much about any of mine and I had an idyllic childhood.

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SuperMariosSister · 01/08/2013 09:07

I don't think I had a party every year, I remember a few. felt like I was committing some kind of birthday sin but the train trip/day out will cost what a party at home would.

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PeterParkerSays · 01/08/2013 09:15

DS has never had a birthday party. He's having one this year because he's asked for it. He would otherwise have gone to the zoo for the day.

If your DS's not bothered, I'd just say "but DS doesn't want one, so we're accepting his wishes".

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SuperMariosSister · 01/08/2013 09:21

that sounds a good idea , I'm sure ds would like one but he knows that its one or the other and really wants to go on the day out.

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mrsjay · 01/08/2013 09:25

tell his grandparents they are more than welcome to do a party for him but he wil be on the train the can toast him instead you have nothing to feel guilty about it is his birthday and if he wants to go on a train for it then why not, we never had partys every year for mine, in 20 years of having kids i think there has been 7 or 8 parties,

mrsjay · 01/08/2013 09:26

we always did days out much better fun anyway then a cake when we got home

throckenholt · 01/08/2013 09:28

he is having a treat (train trip) rather than a party - and even more - it is what he wants.

Ignore gparents.

imnotmymum · 01/08/2013 09:33

We rarely do parties and yes it is the birthday boy who should do want he wants for his birthday

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SuperMariosSister · 01/08/2013 09:37

feel less mean now. I think its because he is going to someone else party on his birthday then the train trip another day. but he wants to go the party and will have fun will still have presents/cake on his birthday. strange grandparents

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thebody · 01/08/2013 09:39

it's his birthday not GPS. his choice. they are being silly.

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