hubby has no drive (tmi)

[lrdavis]

My husband and I have been together for 4 years and we found out he has low testosterone about 6 months ago Dr said it will change his drive to have sex when they fix it... only problem is he doesn't like the meds so nothing has changed... I can arouse him but am tired of "being the man" when it comes to the bedroom. What do I do????

Have you told him how much this is effecting you and ergo will effect your relationship with him. I would expect my husband to take the meds if it was having such and effect on our lives out of respect for me and wanting to continue our relationship.

Why doesn't he like the meds? He is lucky the GP can treat this and it doesn't make sense not to take them unless there are troublesome side effects. Maybe the other testosterone effects make him feel like a different person as they make his personality change, he could be familiar with a calm, even passive personality and testosterone changes who he is. I think it will become a problem that will spill over into your relationship.

Acupuncture or a herbalist may help.

There are multi vits specially formulated for men that should help.

It would be preferable for is body needs to increase it's own testosterone levels.

With low testosterone then he will need to possibly try an alternative treatment. Tablets maybe easy, but like any tablets there can be side effects. Testosterone gel is another option, BUT you must be careful it doesn't come into contact with females or children - that will include seperate towels etc Or there are injections.

Not a pleasant situation for him to be in, nor you, but he may benefit from trying other soliutions.

you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. then hopefully both go back to the doctor to sort out.