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AIBU?

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To think this man was rude?

11 replies

Kasterborous · 31/07/2013 14:29

We live in a forces house and have just had a new kitchen put in, not had any choice in the matter and it has taken nearly three weeks. Was finally finished yesterday and the foreman asked if we would mind if his boss looked at it today as they look at random ones to see if they are done properly. I said no even though it meant waiting in yet again.

They turned up, rang the bell, our dog had a bark at them, not much and she stayed near me. The one in the suit, who I didn't know said. 'Put it in the other room' meaning the dog. No please, no introduction on who he was. It really got my back up I felt like shutting the door in his face. I went in the living room with the dog and DD and shut the door behind us and let him look in the kitchen, before I said something rude. They shouted bye when they had finished.

Was he being rude, or AIBU, because of all the hassle this kitchen has been and that was the final straw.

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Bowlersarm · 31/07/2013 14:31

Yes he was rude. A total lack of social skills. He should have asked you nicely, not barked an order at you. How annoying.

ReluctantBeing · 31/07/2013 14:32

He was rude. Sounds like he thinks you should be grateful for the kitchen, which I am sure you are, but that doesn't make him better than you and his lack of manner is appalling.

Keztrel · 31/07/2013 14:34

YANBU he was rude. But I wouldn't take it personally, some people are just rude gits, especially when they're working. Maybe he was stressed or scared of dogs...but more likely just rude.

frogwatcher42 · 31/07/2013 14:35

He was rude but I do get fed up (have to make a lot of home visits) with people not automatically putting dogs into other rooms when somebody arrives. It happens so much that I reckon I am guilty of being rude about it sometimes.

If you are expecting somebody, or somebody arrives who you are going to invite in (particularly an official) I do think dogs should be removed before they have to ask.

Kasterborous · 31/07/2013 14:38

I see your point frogwatcher42.

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Bowlersarm · 31/07/2013 14:49

frogwatcher I would no more think about taking my dog out of the room than asking one of my children to leave the room if we had a visitor.

I would, out of courtesy, ask a visitor if they were ok with dogs, but i wouldn't expect a visitor, and in this case someone the op had no interest in having in her home, to bark (haha) an order at me, to be honest.

BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 31/07/2013 14:51

Was rude but ime it's par for the course with the military. No excuse though

Pendeen · 31/07/2013 16:39

I would normally expect a dog to be removed from the room but if not then I would be very polite when asking.

Boys is right about some in the forces being lile that all the time although OP hasn't said if he was military or civilian (although not very 'civil' in any event)!

Cherriesarelovely · 31/07/2013 16:42

He was rude but then again maybe he was scared of dogs and was trying not to show it! I have a huge dog that makes alot of noise when the door goes. I always put her in another room when I answer the door because it can be intimidating for people when they come in and are greeted by this huge, hairy barking thing!

cantdoalgebra · 31/07/2013 17:33

It is very unlikely that the visitor was in the military - housing has all been contracted out.

RockOnRuby · 02/08/2013 08:48

I would have told him to come back after he'd finished his social skills course.

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