To have been a bit taken back by this eBay collector?

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So I sold two items on eBay and they were cash on collection..

Guy turned up 30 minutes early and kept knocking on the door, I was upstairs changing so tried to hurry up.

I opened the door and apologised for the delay, I turned round to get said items, (they were under my stairs near my living room) next thing I know he's come in my house and shut the door and walked in to my living room.

He checked items were OK and what not but I'm still shocked he just casually walked in and shut the door behind him?!

AIBU in thinking this isn't normal eBay collection etiquette? If I collect anything I usually wait at the door.

YANBU. How rude? Unless you actually said "come in" there's no reason for him to just walk in. Never mind shut the door behind him!

Plus I can't stand people who turn up early. Yabu for apologising

YANBU, that was presumptuous and rude. I'd have been very unnerved.

I know I was barely dressed when the door went!

Glad it's not just me then!

some people seem to have no idea about social boundaries these days. he's the odd one, not you OP.

YANBU unless it was chucking it down outside and you left him standing in the pouring rain. That's the only reason I can think of that it would be understandable for him letting himself in.

Yanbu, I would wait at the door. And I wouldn't arrive early. What if you weren't in? He would have wasted his time and been snotty about it, when it would have been his own fault.

It wasn't raining at the time, different story now though!

I don't like early/unannounced visitors!

He shouldn't have walked in, but agree about some people not having clear social boundaries.

I had an ebay collector at my door recently and I allowed him into my kitchen only (I think I shut the living room door). Even then, I had to kind of push ahead, to make it clear that I was the boss! I did feel uncomfortable, but only because of his pushy energy.

In future it might be better to do the transaction on the doorstep, esp. if its a pushy man. Say you've got decorators in.

Yanbu, I hate when my neighbour does this. Before I've even opened the door properly she has her foot in the hallway so would not expect a stranger to do this.
Its not on to enter someone's house without being invited.

Next time (if there is a next time) ask them to hang on a moment and close the door whilst getting the items. Most people would not mind you doing this in the slightest.

He probably just thought you meant him to follow you in to the house to pick them up, obviously he'd have to look them over and give you cash and he must have presumed you didn't want to do all that on the doorstep. I don't see the big deal.
In fact if you did intend to do all that on the doorstep I'd be thinking you were a little rude, rather than him.

Really Annabelle? I always wait at the door, would never just walk on in to their living room.

I have never entered someone's home without being invited in first.

neither have I, but not everyone is very good at social convention.
I would never expect to be left on the doorstep to conduct a cash transaction. I would do it of course, and be polite, but I would walk away shaking my head at the manners.

Just goes to show how things differ every time I've collected a purchase I've always waited at the door.

Don't think I could ever just invite myself in, would feel too cheeky.

social rules are tricky, what is rude to you is not to him, and what is rude to me is not to you. Which is why you should probably be more generous towards him, no doubt people have thought the same about you before (and me, and all of us)

Urgh - that would fraek me right out

Eek, I would have been quite freaked out by that. YANBU, he should have waited at the door unless you invited him in.