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To wish he had not said anything!

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Lj8893 · 30/07/2013 20:56

Me and dp have always been open about the fact we will one day get married, and have fairly similar ideas about what we want in a wedding and in a marriage.

It was never a massive deal though for either of us untill I fell pregnant in January, now I feel its become more important for me so I feel like a proper family (I know that sounds daft and don't flame me, but its important for me to have the same surname as my family if that makes sense)

Dp knows this and normally just goes yeah yeah whatever etc when I bring it up.
So I have kind of been a bit disappointed everytime I think about it, thinking its not going to happen any time soon.

Just over a week ago he went out for a few drinks with his mum and sister and bumped into my dad. When he came home he was pretty tipsy and told me he had made my dad cry by asking for my hand in marriage.
We didn't really discuss anything further than that because like I said he was pretty drunk and I didn't want to push him.

But nothing has been said since and knowing that he had asked my dad that is just making it unbearable now !!

Am I just being silly or should I talk to him to make sure he was for real or just being a drunken fool and I should stop getting my hopes up.

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MrsKeithRichards · 30/07/2013 20:57

Ask him?

trinity0097 · 30/07/2013 20:58

Why don't you ask him? I asked mine as otherwise 11 years later I would still be waiting!

Sparklingbrook · 30/07/2013 20:59

Oh no. Seems like the communication between you isn't as it should be. Just ask him outright, and tell him you want to be married before the baby arrives which must be any time soon.

youmeatsix · 30/07/2013 20:59

you can have a baby with him but you feel you cant just ask a question about something as important as getting married?? you said it was a week ago, maybe he is buying a ring and fixing a proposal?

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 30/07/2013 21:19

I discussed it with my dh and practically told him how I wanted him to propose! Otherwise he wouldn't be my dh, he would still be my dp. Men just don't seem to care about weddings.

ToffeePenny · 30/07/2013 21:21

Give your DC your surname and he can change his to yours when you marry?

may give the desired nudge

MrsKeithRichards · 30/07/2013 21:23

Personally I wouldn't put yourself through the stress of planning a wedding before the baby comes. One thing at a time!

Lj8893 · 30/07/2013 22:07

Sorry, I didn't mean get married before the baby arrives! Hell no!
But I do want to be married fairly soon after, ideally within a year.

I will ask him, just don't want to be disappointed!

And as for giving the baby my surname, I would never be that cruel, my surname is horrible!! another reason why i want to be married

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