DeWe again, don't want to keep repeating myself but no, I am not prejudiced. It is not prejudice to choose not to donate to charities whose ethos you fundamentally disagree with. I asked above if Christians would be happy to donate to Brook or Marie Stopes for e.g. their excellent work advising young people and providing contraception and counselling - no one has responded to this. I'm aware that church, synagogue, mosque organisations can do excellent work but I and many others would still prefer to donate to the many non-religious organisations out there.
Msbluebozooka that's a really silly question, when you put money in a Cancer Research tin you are donating to Cancer Research, not the individual holding the tin.
Snazzy "eccentric so, the organisation that you donated to that with hindsight you wish you hadn't - what do they do, or what policies do they have, that you disagree with? I assume there are, as you said 'practical consequences' to supporting them that you have a problem with?"
Snazzy, the organisation I donated to was Camphill Communities who run communities for people with learning difficulties and of course provide extensive pastoral care as part of that remit. I don't know exactly how they would treat a member of their community who was gay, or needed an abortion, and obviously I don't have the time or resources to investigate how every single aspect of their organisation works.
My knowledge of Christian and Jewish charities is that they are often not able to provide that kind of support as it goes against what they most deeply believe. they are likely to be staffed by individuals who cannot support those examples as it would in their eyes be against God's will.
They also are likely to include prayer and a promotion of Christian belief as part of their activities. I am personally not comfortable with the idea of funding people to promote beliefs I don't share, especially to people with learning difficulties. That is not prejudice.
The impossibility of knowing every detail of how every organisation works is precisely why it is more realistic to make a decision based on the fundamental values of a charity - what belief system is the charity ultimately built on?
Similarly not everyone has the time/resources/inclination to research every charity which is why I think everything should be as upfront as possible so people can make informed choices.
I think I've said everything I can possibly say on this subject, I know I'm not alone in thinking this so I will politely bow out of this thread now.