To want to use my own bathroom?

[ExperienceHunter]

I share a flat with my friend's brother. Nice chap, we don't see each other often but he's tidy and polite. He has a girlfriend who often stays over. I don't mind that, but we have one bathroom and she regularly spends over an hour an evening in it during prime going-to-bed time. I have been waiting to wash my face and brush my teeth since ten. I'm exhausted and want to go to bed. On top of that I have a dodgy tummy and have been clenching my arse cheeks the whole time.

AIBU to bash on the door and tell her to get out? It's that or getting properly dressed and going to the supermarket down the road.

Absolutely and exclusively what whois said.

Let him clean up after his skanky gf. Perhaps when he realises how grim she is, he'll dump her! :)

Good point about lining the bin Back it doesn't excuse the woman's behaviour but still OP....what's the bin for if it's not got a liner? My bathroom bin is often a bit gross with half finished tubes of conditioner and things in it.....why just wire?

Also what if you flatmate thinks it's you who leaves the tampons. Not good at all.

Thank god I no longer flat share.

At the end of the day, you pay rent and are presumably an equal partner with equal rights as far as the tenancy is concerned. Girlfriend or not, she is a guest in your home and she needs to switch on to that fact. Have a word with her, no need to be rude or to shout, but spell it out to her that you are not prepared to clean up after her or have her dictate the times at which you can use your own bathroom. Have a word with your flat mate as well, explain what you have told her so he gets your side of the story too, also make clear to him that from now on any used tampons that are not appropriately disposed of will be finding their way to his pillow case. Blokes kind of get squeamish about that kind of stuff.

You need to sort this out now before such behaviour becomes normalised. My old flat mate used to have his girlfriend around all the time, it got to the point where I felt I was an inconvenience in my own home as they monopolised the kitchen and living room virtually every evening as they prepared meals together or watched TV/DVDs. Don?t even get me started on the time she used to spend in the bathroom in the mornings. Eventually I went nuclear and gave her both barrels when she sauntered into the living room one evening with a glass of (my rather expensive bottle) wine while I was watching a programme and without even asking flicked the channel over to Eastenders before nesting herself in the armchair. Strangely after that she did not come around as much.

It has to be noted as well, that people like that are more often than not putting down a marker, it?s a subtle ?fuck you?, I?m the queen bee around here and there is nothing you can do about it? type of thing, they view you as competition and try to establish some kind if alpha status. All very bizarre, Anyway, your home is your sanctuary, an oasis of calm, a place to relax after a shite day at work, you should not have to put up with this crap , it is up to you to crush her disrespectful and selfish behaviour and restore order.