To tell DDs friend off?

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They're both 9. Her friend is a nice kid but...rather hard work too. She's loud....some are aren't they....she also does the odd thing which annoys DD such as winding DD up by picking up a handful of small precious toys and running off with them through the house. DD hates this as she's precious about the toys and is careful to keep them all together.

I said "Bring them back her X and put them back in the box" and she didn't so I spoke sternly and said "Put them back. We're not playing with those because you're not respecting them."

She was a bit as I'm normally a bit of a relaxed Mum...I let them run wild as they have a lot of fun too.

Xs mum knows she can be a handful and has told me to treat her as I would my own and tell her off.

I just feel weird!

Yanbu
Think she needs to respect your dds things and should also listen to you

Your house, your rules! Stick to your guns. :-)

I know what you mean. I will tell DDs bf off or correct him (he's 4) but it's more of "in this house we do/say...." so he can act and say what he pleases at home but here he is polite respectful. His mum and I are very close friends so she actually likes it.

YANBU
I happily put up with DDs cheeky madam of a friend only because she is quite happy to accept me telling her off when she pushes it too far.

Absolutely tell her when she's being difficult in your house.

YANBU, I've done the same thing and would expect the same from my friends. Sometimes you have to. Kids are usually better behaved in someone elses home than their own but they all have their moments where you have to step in and have a word with them about something they're doing,whether its playing with something they shouldn't or doing something that's causing another child to get upset.

Don't feel bad about it,the mother has given you permission to treat this child like your own and tell her off if you need to so you've done nothing wrong and its better to nip it in the bud now than give it a chance to get worse and for the unacceptable behaviour to become a regular thing everytime this child comes to your home :)

As long as you are fair and consistent I can't see the problem