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AIBU?

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To think this doesn't make me the fussiest eater ever?

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Contiki259 · 28/07/2013 19:43

I don't like bread. It's honestly one of the only foods I won't eat (Along with strawberries which bring me out in hives), but since childhood my family have treated me as if I'm the world's fussiest eater because of it. If I was ever invited for tea anywhere they'd tell the parents "Oh, but she's really fussy you know. She doesn't like BREAD." and even now as an adult it seems to be brought up at every single family gathering, told to nieces and nephews and younger cousins as a "Look at how fussy Contiki is!" story. My sister doesn't like rice but there has never been a big deal made out of that.

I've never understood it. It's just one food. Surely it's no different than not liking rice? It's a bit pathetic to admit, and I know I need to get a grip, but as a kid I used to find it really upsetting that they always made such a big deal of it and even as an adult it annoys me.

So the question is AIBU to think that disliking bread doesn't mean I'm a really fussy eater?

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lljkk · 28/07/2013 19:45

yanbu. But then I don't like bread very much, either!
I will eat it. Because it's convenient & cheap. But I prefer almost everything else.
Is it really only bread that you don't eat?

DH's family are into potatoes. Not eating spuds makes you an ultra weirdo in their eyes.

FrogsGoWhat · 28/07/2013 19:46

YANBU

I don't really like bread either. Also don't like chips - apparently that makes me really weird

Allthingspretty · 28/07/2013 19:48

Yanbu

littlemisssarcastic · 28/07/2013 19:48

Does this include all types of bread? Or just loaves of bread?

Pitta? Brown bread, wholemeal bread, white bread? Roti? Chappati? Naan?

Does it include pancakes? Waffles? Muffins?

Pizza bases?

Or only some of these?

YouTheCat · 28/07/2013 19:48

There's loads of things I don't like (not bread but still I'm a carboholic ).

YANBU Eat what you like and tell them to bugger off.

pictish · 28/07/2013 19:50

Not if that's all you dislike.
Some people don't like milk. Others don't like bananas. People take against all sorts of seemingly innocuous foods.

Unless you screw your face up at every other offering, I reckon you're alright.

stargirl1701 · 28/07/2013 19:50

I'm not keen on bread OR potatoes

I will eat them though. I just wouldn't really use them in my own cooking.

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Contiki259 · 28/07/2013 19:51

There are many foods I wouldn't necessarily choose myself to eat but I'd eat if they were served to me if that makes sense?

But in foods I absolutely will not eat the only ones I can think of off the top of my head are bread, strawberries and rare meat (I'll eat pretty much any meat as long as it's not rare!). There are probably a couple of others, but really not that many.

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iklboo · 28/07/2013 19:51

I love bread but I wouldn't think you're a weirdo cos you don't. I don't like chocolate cake / chocolate ice cream / chocolate mousse or biscuits where the whole thing is chocolate (eg double chic cookies, bourbons etc). Now apparently THAT makes me weird.

angeltattoo · 28/07/2013 19:54

I don't eat fish or lamb.

My PIL think this is very difficult to understand, and think I am very fussy and difficult.

It's not hard. Just fish and lamb.

and no, FIL, I don't take sugar. Never have, never will. No need to ask everytime you make me a coffee in the last 8 years!

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Contiki259 · 28/07/2013 19:54

Pancakes, waffles, muffins are all fine.

Don't like Naan or pitta, or any of the various type of loaf breads. Haven't ever tried chapati.

I wouldn't choose to eat pizza, but I could eat a thin base, find a thicker one more difficult though. I like wraps, and eat them pretty often as my lunch substitute for a sandwich!

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trinity0097 · 28/07/2013 19:55

I can understand where they are coming from to not eat a staple food of your country is kinda weird, especially as an adult, far more so than not eating rice in this country which is a 'foreign' food. I would be more understanding if it were something with a strong taste, particular texture etc... Rather than something really quite plain.

FriskyHenderson · 28/07/2013 19:55

My DH doesn't like custard and the look on my dad's face every time he offers it and every time DH refuses is hilarious. "He doesn't like custard" is said in this incredulous voice and then repeated by each member of the family up and down the table - he doesn't like custard The subtext is "what a fecking weirdo"

But that's custard, it's easily avoided and there's pretty much only two types - hot or cold.

Having a blanket ban on bread, all sorts of bread in any sort of incarnation of breadness -

angeltattoo · 28/07/2013 19:56

Yanbu, or fussy.

JADS · 28/07/2013 19:57

No, not a weirdo. I don't like brussel sprouts and refuse to eat them, apparantly that makes me fussy according to my ils!

OneStepCloser · 28/07/2013 20:02

How do you eat your sandwich then Cont

Frisky, that just made me laugh!

Trills · 28/07/2013 20:03

Of course it doesn't make you the fussiest eater ever but it is a very unusual dislike.

It's also odd because "bread" comes in may different kinds, with different tastes and textures.

guiltyconscience · 28/07/2013 20:03

yanbu you are not fussy at all take no notice they are idiots lol!

Dorris83 · 28/07/2013 20:06

YANBU OP... I don't like potatoes of any sort an people think that is bizarre... But I'm not ostracised by my family for it, they just don't offer me potatoes...
Your family are being unreasonable and unfair!
(Although I don't think there is anything you can do to stop them!)

FrogsGoWhat · 28/07/2013 20:06

With me it's just "loaf" bread and pittas I don't like. Fine with naan etc. Can eat bread if it's toasted with enough butter and jam though - then I get the piss taken by asking if I "would like some toast with my jam"

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Contiki259 · 28/07/2013 20:07

Trinity I think part of it is actually the particular texture. Wraps have an entirely different texture and I like them, whereas to me the various bread products that I don't like have similar textures. But perception of texture is a pretty subjective thing.

Onestep I eat whatever I'd put in a sandwich in a wrap instead :)

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MalcolmTuckersMum · 28/07/2013 20:12

Sympathies OP. My Dad was always on at me when I was growing up to JUST TRY IT WILL YOU (getting louder and more red faced with every refusal). I know it's pathetic - but I absolutely know when I won't like something. I know I won't like Stilton or smelly runny cheese but he'd never accept it. He used to offer me £100 just to try something - but I knew, just knew, that if it was worth that much to him then it HAD to taste like death!
However, when some half assed dick that I once fancied myself in love with offered me an oyster - a food which I had previously loudly condemned as fit only for hogs - I swallowed it without a second's hesitation. I still like oysters!
There's no rhyme or reason to what we like or don't like so YADNBU

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Contiki259 · 28/07/2013 20:17

My family like to have rolls with every meal. So I'm always offered one and when I say "No thank you" is when the inevitable "So fussy!" comes out. The fact I'm eating everything else is irrelevant.

If they'd just said it was odd, or moaned about inconvenience for picnics with teasing about being fussy, it would never have bothered me, it's the way they always offer and always have the same rant every time that makes it sound as if I reject everything they put in front of me.

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auntpetunia · 28/07/2013 20:19

YANBU I'm coeliac so don't eat bread or pizza or muffins or waffles or cake as well as most shop bought burgers or sausages! They'd love me wouldn't they?

morethanyoubargainfor · 28/07/2013 20:20

Families are great at sharing thier views aren't they! I am a gluten free vegetarian, this causes a whole heap of issues with family. My mother will do a roast for everybody and just tell me to eat the vegetables including the roast potatoes that are cooked in lard! My mil always makes a fuss about the stress I put her under to feed me, so will go that extra mile and go out to the butchers to buy me nice ham, because I can eat the naice ham! Or she will bake a cake and then get offended when I say I can't eat it due to gluten. Then she tells me it only has 8oz flour in it so not much gluten to worry about!

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