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to wish DH would get a proper haircut?

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lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 28/07/2013 16:28

Ok, I am aware that this is shallow behaviour and I am almost certainly going to get a flaming but I'm just hoping that there is even one person who understands where I am coming from or can offer some advice on my trivial problem.

DH and I have been together over 4 years now and, when I met him, one of the thing I was instantly drawn to was his hair. It's the kind of hair us women spend a fortune trying to achieve - thick and does exactly what you want it to by contrast poor old BIL seems to share follicles with Prince William

During our time together I've realised there is a pattern to DH's hair. For three/four weeks it looks amazing and he styles it in a sort of floppy David Tennant style (if that makes sense). Then it gets a bit longer and he spends a good two-three weeks complaining that he needs to get it cut. He then goes to the local barber and has a 'trim'. Unfortunately, this is one of those barbers that offer a 'one style fits all' approach, just sort of short and the same length all over. DH has quite a young face and the result makes him look even younger, almost like a schoolboy.

I hate to admit this but, during the few weeks it takes to grow back to it's gorgeousness, there's something in me that looks at him and for a split second, sees schoolboy rather than my DH. Needless to say the schoolboy look doesn't really do it for me.

So (crikey this is longer than expected) I took advantage of a half price offer at the really nice salon I go to for him to have a 'proper' hair cut. The result was amazing and looked like his 'normal' style from day one but had been cut in such a way that it lasted for a good 8 weeks. It looked much more professional at work and people asked whether he had done something different.

However, DH says that he will carry on going to the barber shop as he 'refuses to pay more than £11 for a haircut'. We're reasonably OK financially and so it's not a case that we can't afford it, just that he doesn't want to. Personally, I think a good haircut is worth it. He'd spend £30 on a shirt he wears once a fortnight and yet wont pay £30 for a haircut he 'wears' every day for at least two months!

Any suggestions? (and, again, yes I know this is trivial and I adore DH but would rather not have that 'schoolboy' period!)

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lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 28/07/2013 16:28
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LindyHemming · 28/07/2013 16:36

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AllSWornOut · 28/07/2013 16:56

YANBU but if he doesn't agree then I think you're on a hiding to nothing.

I cut DH's hair with a clipper and object to spending £££ on a trim for myself so have resorted to the mn haircut, so I might not be best placed to offer advice on this issue Grin

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 28/07/2013 17:04

YANBU!

lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 28/07/2013 17:19

AllSWornOut I think therein lies the problem - there's not much I can do about it. I did even offer to pay the extra but apparently it's the 'principle'. In fairness, I have recently got him to understand that cheap shoes are a false economy so maybe this will be a similar slow burner...!

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BridgetBidet · 28/07/2013 17:22

Em, I kind of sympathised with you. Because my husband gets a number 2 in April then doesn't have it cut again until the next April even when he looks like Liam Gallagher's hairy older brother.

But he does actually get it cut, even if you don't like it. It sounds like it might annoy him when it's at the length you like. So YABU, it's his hair, and at least he gets it cut sometimes.

WMittens · 28/07/2013 17:42

He'd spend £30 on a shirt he wears once a fortnight and yet wont pay £30 for a haircut he 'wears' every day for at least two months!

Yeah, but a shirt's going to last for years - hardly comparable.

Soontobemama · 28/07/2013 17:46

I sympathise as my DH does the same. I hate it when he gets a haircut as he looks really unattractive until it grows back a bit. He always gets it too short which really really doesn't suit him.

lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 28/07/2013 17:50

WMittens I would agree with you under normal circumstances... However, he has a habit of getting wonderfully permenent stains on shirts - normally ink. As a result an average shirt lasts about 2 yrs so probably only gets worn about 50 times before it ends up used as something else!

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lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain · 28/07/2013 17:51

Actually, on reflection, resistance to haircuts, abuse of shirts...there's only one option...LTB! Smile

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BridgetBidet · 28/07/2013 17:54

Yeah leave him. This is clearly emotional abuse.

Bexicles · 28/07/2013 18:01

I think it's the difference between visiting a barber or a hair "stylist". I wouldn't make a big deal about it though it's his head.

DidoTheDodo · 28/07/2013 18:15

Difficult one.
I got past my DHs reluctance to go to the barber by buying some clippers and teaching myself (he still thinks I give him a 8 on top and a 2 round the sides...I don't, it's a mixture of 6, 4 and 2.)

However, clever and classy cuts would be well out of my league.

Could you get a mobile hairdresser to come to the house and do both of you? Then you are in charge of the appointment system.

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