Sil is hosting a party for niece today, the problem being is that pil are there. Sil knows full well i & dc are non-contact with ils due to toxic behaviour and infact we haven't seen sil for 11months because of her involvement in trying to get me on pil side.
There have been numerous circumstances of toxic behaviours displayed by both mil & fil.
Sil is on another planet, and has been harassing dh since fri saying if we can't get there maybe pil can bring my dc in the car (i don't drive)
Never ever would i leave fil alone with my dc, let alone let him drive them anywhere in a car!
Aibu based on previous circumstances to say no? And what excuse can i dream up or what truth can i tell to make her realise we won't be going?
Mil was on the phone last night saying she would be here to pick up dh & dc if we can't get there by other means
-I don't think so
somehow!
I love my niece very much,
but my dc being around pil
just isn't on the cards and i
feel they are forcing us into it.
If it was pil were not there i
would have considered going
but i cannot have these people around my children.
Fwiw fil beat dh as a child, so much so he cannot protect
my dc as he is scared of the
man! Fil has verbally abused
me and the children a few
times when in contact and
tripped my dc up and wound
them up on many occasion.
Mil is narcisstic and made my
dd from a prev rel feel hurt
and upset by insulting her
calling her chinese looking,
like a boy and constantly
mentioned her true blood father who means zilch and has never seen her since 7m old! There are so many other things the route of going non-contact and i want it to stay that way!
I caved in, in May and let mil see dc, it didn't go well and i'm happy to keep things nc.