To ask someone to please hold my hand and tell me

[DotDotDash]

That I will find a nice man .

Kept my name change to follow on fro, previous thread about casual shag.

And yes I know I've got to love myself before anyone can love me etc etc....

But I just can't shake the feeling that I'm not good enough and/or all men are pigs.

I'm mid 20s so realistically I know I have plent of time, so come on mumsnetters share your words of wisdom!

You'll find one when the time is right. I have no idea about your casual shag, but very much doubt it's dented your chances of finding a decent bloke.
They are out there.

You may, you may not. Either way it's all right, you will be all right.

In my 20s I married a man who was so totally wrong for me and made me miserable.

In my 40s I found the man I'm meant to be with, on the internet, through an online game.

Go out. Go to an evening class. Find someone who has a common interest to begin with and work on building up from friendship rather than lots of dates. If things don't work out romantically at least you'll find some new friends too.

You will, you really will.

I can't tell you when or how. But you will.

Have not read your previous thread but am thinking of an old saying of my Nan's "If you go fishing in the same pond and keep catching tiddlers, don't change your bait, change your pond". A very corny old saying, but has a ring of truth.

I am 40 next year and I am just starting to feel safe after the last break up in 2008. I feel more love for myself and have a lot to give others. I'm not bitter or angry but I want to spend the rest of my life loving me! After so many years of hurt and being treated badly.

I think I have every chance of finding a nice guy and you do too if that is what you want. My soul wants a nice guy but I think it is sensible not to actually give in to that desire.

Mid 20s ? Probably not what you want to hear but you have bags of time yet. Don't think that you need to change. It will happen when it's meant to. And a casual shag doesn't make you a bad person for God's sake. Isn't that what your 20's are for ? (says she who's been really boring and never had a casual shag !)

One of my friends married the man she fell in love with as a teenager. Despite children, he made her life miserable, eventually they divorced. She is marrying a lovely man in the next month, she is in her mid-50s.

My advice is enjoy your life and when it is meant to happen it will.

Spot on hadababygirl. DotDotDash- be happy with yourself and whatever will be will be.