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To say not all charity collectors are bad?

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Alisvolatpropiis · 26/07/2013 22:51

I'm usually of the opinion charity muggers are lacking social skills in a big way but of late I have noticed an utterly charming type in my local high street. They are friendly on approach and friendly on retreat after being told no once. Are they an anomaly?

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Bowlersarm · 26/07/2013 22:57

They're just a nuisance full stop. I don't want to go about my daily business looking to avoid people. I wouldn't have thought they get much business this way, any more.

apostropheuse · 26/07/2013 23:00

I wish I could agree with you but due to being accosted by them on a daily basis my patience has completely eroded. I just want to go to work/return from work in peace.

NotYoMomma · 26/07/2013 23:02

where do you live?

one proper tried to trick me once I was livid. a one off text donation my arse, just dropped it in last second as I was about to click send that it was a monthly text subscription! Angry

Iaintdunnuffink · 26/07/2013 23:06

YANBU. There are some great ones out there.

Many of the chuggers are employed by an outsourced company. Bad feedback filters through, eventually. The charity doesn't want a bad reputation. They are trying to raise money and not put people off.

Charities provide many much needed services. Their entire income, or most of it, is received through voluntary donations. It's a vey hard balance to get right.

BackforGood · 26/07/2013 23:09

I@d differentiate hugely between volunteers giving up a day to shake a tin for thier favourite charity, and people who are trying to earn a living by signing people up to regular giving.
I'd put charity collectors under the first category and say, I'm sure, with very few exceptions they are wonderful people.

Iaintdunnuffink · 26/07/2013 23:10

NotYoMomma

If it wasn't that long ago and you can remember the name Complain, even if its only an email.

Yonionekanobe · 26/07/2013 23:14

NoYoMomma - if you can remember the name let the charity know and also the Charities Commision. That's appalling.

Turniptwirl · 26/07/2013 23:17

There's a big difference between shaking a tin for a charity that matters to you (which I've done myself) and someone acosting people to sign their life away. The former are volunteers and polite, the latter are paid well and pushy.

Alisvolatpropiis · 26/07/2013 23:19

apost

That's my point really. Usually I feel irritated by them but of late there seems to be a new type who can gracefully take no for answer.

I wondered if this new type was widespread or not .

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aldiwhore · 26/07/2013 23:21

Mostly they're nice. But from a personal perspective all I ever feel is guilt and disdain at being asked for cash, they usually ask before I have a chance to notice who they are, and quite often I don't have cash.

I walk away feeling grubby, guilty and helpless. Not inspired to fight their cause.

I'm not sure what the solution is, so many people are in need, but being harassed for car washes/bag packing/money by people with creepily huge smiles/awkward mumbles/invasion of my own miserable body space isn't something that adds any value to my day, it adds no value at all.

With other hat on, my fundraising hat, I am brazen enough to ask for money, and have a stupid smile, I am irritating, because we need the cash, then there's the other cause where someone's life hangs in the balance and they need my cash too.

But above and beyond all that is my family. We need the cash. I donate to the Alzheimer's society mostly, but in seven years there's not much difference in my life, my FIL is still absent and sometimes terrifying, sexually inappropriate, violent, lost, lonely, confused, shell of a man but who's still self funding, unsupported, and out of reach of any small change I might have.

So please, be inventive, be stealthy, fuck off out of my face as I am already doing beyond my best. With respect.

kim147 · 26/07/2013 23:22

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Alisvolatpropiis · 26/07/2013 23:23

Notyomamma

Cardiff.

They are very new. A polite no and they back off. This is very new!

I'm not talking charity collectors with a tin, more the stereotypical approach you for a chat types. I was genuinely surprised all week by their acceptance I wasn't interested. Just accepted it and stepped back. Very different to the usual "I'll keep pursuing you and harping on" types.

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