to think my DP is an idiot (and a big kid!)?

[unlucky83]

A week or so ago DP bought one of those deep 'easy set up' 8 ft paddling pools 'for the DCs' (6&12). We have a small slightly sloped garden...
We tried to set it up but it really needs to be absolutely flat - the water just poured out of one side...(not the end of the world - we are moving soon into a house where we will be able to put it up)
Gave up and got the old 4 ft pool out, repaired a few punctures (left it blown up in garage for ages last summer thinking weather must get better) and the kids (bar the 40+yo one) were happy ...

(I was miffed because I had had to empty the big one, put it to dry ...and deal with disappointed kids )
Thought no way am I struggling to get it back in the box - told him he could do that while I was out with DCs...
Came back to find he had managed to balance it on the paved area - right outside the back door - I have to step over it to put the rubbish out...
The area it isn't really big or flat enough - so he has moved some flags from another area and also has things like the beach towels (scruffy) supporting under the sides -
It is kind of an oval shape -a bit distended - looks very unstable...
Worried it is just going to collapse and spill water everywhere - it must contain gallons and gallons ... if it does it will be a disaster...
Into the house as so close to the door? - or (maybe even worse) flood our down slope neighbour (have to be careful emptying the small 4 ft one on the grass because of this )

To make it worse -even though weather here is a bit miserable he insisted the children played in it yesterday evening with him (lasted 20 mins as too cold)- and with the hosepipe too - which they left turned on in the pool -
Last night I heard a 'waterfall' noise when making a cup of tea - water was spilling over the side... took 6-7 buckets ( 4 gallon ones) of water just to stop it flooding over -and had to carry half of them though the house into front garden as grass is so sodden from recent torrential rain it was turning into a mud bath...
(he went to bed as works early and left me to it ...)
Made me realise it is also going to be a nightmare to empty ...and the only access to an outside drain we have - you guessed it - is under the bloody thing

First thing this morning I checked it was still holding...

So AIBU to think DP is an idiot....and more of a DC than his DCs ...

the only thing you can do is ensure that he feels the consequence of his behaviour. afte carrying all that water your back/arms ache too much to do.... (insert something impotant to him.. eg cooking his dnner/his washing)

Ffs,calm down!its only water,just ignore it and make him deal with it if anything happens.life is waaaayy to short to worry about shit like this.

It'd be a terrible shame if it developed a puncture right over where the outside drain is...

Well I will struggle to get past it to hang any washing out anyway ...
(it is so close the cat is struggling to use its cat flap ...)
Worse -its raining now....(and so distended the cover won't fit on)
...just waiting for the tsunami ...
Hopefully our neighbour will see the 'funny' side ...
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crikey ND, really? you'd be fine with this?
its only water yes, but a hell of a lot of it, in an unstable paddling pool right next to the back door and on a slope- chances are if anything did go wrong her DP would not even be there to help clear up.

neighbours of ours did this a few years ago - after the first week or so of use, they had this huge pool of water sat there all summer, they did not have a clue how to empty it and when they finally did, by god did it stink!

Noisy neighbour is very nice -but also loves her garden - it is immaculate - the idea of washing her pansies away with a tidal wave just doesn't bear thinking about ...
glad -the outside drain is under a flagstone - I'd have to lift it up to lift up the flag ....else a puncture would be a very tempting idea...

Be glad you have a DP who like doing things for their DCs.

It's far better than the alternative, even if they can be very annoying.

I do feel your pain, easy set pools are anything but if your lawn isn't perfectly flat.

We have a big one and a great deal of digging was done and a lot of other household jobs not done.

I now have a large piece of trashed lawn all winter. Fortunately neither our windows or next doors look onto that bit.

Also we live on sandstone, which is cheating, our soil is just one great soak-away. It has to be our rural drains are pretty awful.

The point is the kids were happy with what they had - it was the big kid that wasn't...

If I knew he would be so determined I would have dug the garden out ...

(He doesn't do digging -
When we had a blocked outside drain I tried to dig it out but it was hard work - so I got a quote (a hundred or so) to sort it up - he said that was too much and he would do it - after about 3 mins he gave up and told me to call the plumber!
Then we replaced our old rotten shed that had soil piled half way up one side I was building the new storage box thing to put the stuff in in case it rained -he asked if he could help - I told him the next job was to dig the old shed out ...he took the kids to the park instead - forgetting that somebody (me) would have to dig it out...)

I am trying to imagine this in my mind. It sounds like a bit of a big job now. I think you should both try and sort it out together. It sounds dangerous having all that water around your DC's.