To think after a 13 hour shift, dp might want to spend a bit of time with me?

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I get up at 5am and that is the last time I see dp until 8.30pm. He decides to sit at his pc from 8.30pm until 10.30. He then makes a point of coming into the living room and watching tv with me (albeit turning off what I'm watching and putting his own thing on). By this time I'm ready for bed anyway. I suppose it annoys me more because I'm due to work nights soon for a couple if weeks meaning we'll hardly see each other at all and then he's going away for a week. He specifically said the night before that he was worried about me working nights as it meant we would hardly see each other do need to make the most of our evenings now. If questioned he says he needs "me time" to relax after work - fair enough but he gets home at 4.40 - that's 4 hours of computer time before I get back. Aibu?

YANBU

when do you starts nights? Point out to him that he can have all the computer time when you're working in the next few weeks.

And agree in something to watch together then hide the remote!!

He has a problem / addiction.

Do you have DCs?

My DP has his PS3 time when I am on nights. I do MN and FB when spending time with him though!

He turns the telly over despite you already watching something!

He sounds selfish, sod his bloody 'me time', how pathetic is that!

How long have you lived with him?

OP: So when you get in at 8.30pm and he has been at home since 4.40pm, is there a tasty meal ready for you?

Does he do a good share of cleaning, washing, shopping?

YANBU, but some people need more time to themselves than others. I only work part-time whereas DP works full-time, so when he gets home I'm often craving interaction, whereas he just wants to chill, so you just need to get a balance right.

Say to him that when you get home you want to spend time with HIM, not him plus his laptop/PC. Or, could you have the PC in the living room so you can both be "together" even if you're not talking? DP and I have found this works - he goes on his PS3 for a bit and I have my laptop so we can still talk/chat but do our own thing too :)

4 hrs of downtime?

I think he is rally rude to ignore you most of the night then just come in and switch the telly over without asking.