To think calling your parents 'Mummy & Daddy' is a bit silly after a certain age..?

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Example: 20 years old, mum to one, own place, but still refers to her parents as 'Mummy & Daddy'

I received a text from her when she was in labour saying 'Mummy's coming round to take me to hospital'

Often refers to them as 'Mummy & Daddy' in direct conversation and on social media sites too.

I totally cringe every time. AIBU?

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I mainly call them Ma and Pa as an in joke we started a couple of years ago, but I call Ma Mummy when I am a) in labour or b) creeping or taking the piss! I call Pa Daddy because he still calls me Princess
I am 40 btw!

I call my parents Mummy and Daddy and I'm in my 40s. Tend to refer to my Mother or Father if talking to someone else about them, though.

Oh and just been texting DD (16) as she is away this week on an outward bounds thing. She texted "night night mummy, love you xxx" Its nice for her, nice for me.

notanyanymore "She'd be heartbroken if I called her mum" Wow. I find that really astonishing. I would be very interested to know what she thinks when she hears other people address their mothers as "mum".

I think it's a nationality thing too.

Us Scots are not at all, erm , soft/ gentle/ fluffy - you would honestly stick out like the worlds sorest thumb saying "Mummy and Daddy" up here unless you happened to be a posh Landed Gentry Scot who didn't quite count as a proper Scot

It is decidedly uncommon to say Mummy and Daddy up here if you are older than about 9 or 10. And that's generous.

Italic fail

Grunt I think I understand.

I wouldnt make a fuss or throw a strop if DD decided to call me mum, but I have to admit that I would feel sad. It isnt the name itself, it the special relationship that the name represents. To everyone else I am her Mum, her friends, my friends, our family, I am Mum. But between the two of us, she is Pudding, and I am Mummy. I would feel that we had lost something if either of us stopped that and I am sure she feels the same. The same as between me and Pa. To everyone else he is Pa, or my father or my Dad. But between us, I am princess and he is Daddy.

With Ma its a bit different, as we love each other very much but are the piss takers supreme so the only time we say nice things is either a) to take the piss or b) when things are REALLY bad :o

Well I'm in Scotland and say mammy and daddy and I'm 51.

I know loads who say that! Perhaps not mummy though tbh.

I don't really care what other people call their parents but what I hate is when someone (not in my family) says, "Mum says..." instead of "My mum says..." It's fine if one sister says it to another, as they share the mother of course, but if someone at work says it, my instinct is to say "She's not my mum."

My son called me by my first name once. I called him up on that, i'm not his friend, or his mate, i'm his Parent, and as such, i'm his mum.
To me, its respect, and a mutual respect at that, He gets it xx

Me too. I can't really put my finger on it,but I find 'mummy and daddy' strange when an adult is saying it.

Are you in Glasgow apostropheuse?

Because its certainly not "Mammy/Mummy and Daddy" anywhere else I know in Scotland!

And I'm guessing it would be Irish roots in Glasgow.

Glasgow bears very little relation to the rest of Scotland usually.

Our daughters (19 & 16) call us mummy and daddy. We have in no way encouraged this and I find it a bit odd but they won't hear of changing. In public they say mum and dad but I can tell they find it strange. In front of their close friends at home they sometimes slip up and say mummy and none of their friends bat an eyelid. Sometimes I am mother, usually said with exasperation/affection and when dd1 was learning German DH was farter for a very long time. It's what they're comfortable with and who am I to spoil that?

I call mine by their first names instead.

It avoids confusion.

Insanity- thankyou. Maybe a daddy-daughter thing?
When out either sometimes said dad or daddy. Never a conscious thought to use either name. My folks wouldn't care if i said dad or daddy.
Velvet i feel your pain. 5 years and it still hurts.it doesn't matter what age you are it doesn't get any easier.

Bogey- i was always called nelly or baby by my dad.

YABU - why does it matter what other people call their parents. I tend to refer to them in conversation (except to my brothers and sisters) as 'my mother/my mum' or 'my father / my dad', but to their face, or with close family, they'll always be Mummy and Daddy. Although I lost my dad (see did it there) last year, so don't call him anything directly any more.

I'm still Mummy to DS, but he's only 4, and DH is Daddy (and mamamamama to DD 9mo ). I hate being called Mum (don't know why, just don't like it) and DH really doesn't like being called Dad, but each to their own - I don't give a toss if that's what your children call you.

Kali I love Nelly, that is sweet and endearing and just lovely!

Just realised that my sister refers to our parents, to me, as "my mum/dad" whereas I say "Mummy/Daddy". There are no issues at all with me and DSis, so I assume it is habit, but the more I think on it, it is odd.....

Sorry, should add that they are "Mummy/Daddy" to her too, but only to their faces. When we talk about them they are removed by the "my".

I called my parents "mummy" and "daddy" til I was in my teens, but I referred to them as "mum" and "dad" in conversation from about the age of eight. So uncool to admit you called your mummy, er, "mummy"! My MIL recently had a conversation with the grown up children of a friend whose husband had recently walked out on her after thirty years of marriage. Grown up daughter (who is a doctor!) apparently said, "What Dada has done to Mumma is just unforgiveable." MIL said she struggled to keep a straight face.

My sis and me call my mum The mother ship I personally would feel uncomfortable using mummy and daddy as an adult but each to their own.

I hate it when someone who is not my child refers to me as mum, eg a doctor, "so, how is mum today?" Ugh!

I call my father "Daddy" to his face and either "my father" or "my daddy" in the 3rd person. Because it's what I'm used to, it's what I've always said and in my 40s I am too old to learn new tricks.

My darling Mummy will always be "my Mummy" when I talk about her - which is rare these days, and mostly only to my own children, as she died far too man years ago.

My husband calls his mother by her first name as he feels "mum" or variations thereof denote a particular relationship / respect for that relationship - and he doesn't feel she warrants it. Not my place to get involved there. I call her by her first name also.