To be a bit annoyed with BIL??

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I realise I probably am being unreasonable to be posting on AIBU at 38+3 but I'm wondering if I have a right to be a bit annoyed or is it just hormones.

BIL agreed to dog sit our golden when I went into labour. We're in Ireland and I'll be in hospital for 3 days. Visiting hours for DH will be 12.30 to 8.30 so BIL would stay at our house.

Today, while chatting on FaceTime FIL said he was going to an event in London and BIL was going with him. They are going in 2 weeks, on my due date, and staying Fri to Mon. (FIL knows BIL was going to dogsit).

I know I probably won't go on time but AIBU to think BIL could have said it to us himself and aibu to be a bit annoyed as he'd said he would do it and now got a better offer. And I don't know what we'll do if I do go that weekend.

I don't plan on saying anything to BIL. He's a lovely guy and has been great with helping me with dog walking as I've gotten bigger and wrecked from the heat. He's just a bit thoughtless.

YANBU to be a bit annoyed that he hasn't mentioned it to you, he still might do so. Did you say anything to FIL about it? I'd make a joke and say something like "better keep my legs crossed then or doggie's going to be very lonely" , see what he says

Not at all - he is being very unhelpful to offer and then make other plans AND rude to not let you know. It might be worth checking with him in case he has found a back up and this is why he hasn't mentioned it?

What if you went into labour 2 days before he plans his trip, he starts dog sitting and then says, oops, got to go.....

Ok, I don't know much about dogs so may be completely wrong here. But why does your dog need babysitting whilst you're in hospital? I presume your DH will be home in the evening? What do you do when you're out at work all day?

Forgot to mention, he was in the background when FIL was on FaceTime so he knows FIL told me and he never said anything. I did make a joke of keeping my legs crossed to FIL but to be honest it didn't completely click with me about the dogsitting issue till I was off the phone.

He definately wouldn't have sorted a backup plan. It's always BIL or FIL who dogsit if needed, my parents are elderly and not able for him. (He's not aggressive or anything, just young and bouncy)

Regina I don't work so I'm at home with him all day. Also, he has tons of energy and needs his walk every day. And at the very least he'd need to be let out to pee a few times.

It's good to know INBU. It's hard to tell at the moment!