We have just moved house in the last two weeks,the second week I had to go back to work, so we have been

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up to midnight most nights trying to get house in some order especially the dc's rooms.

I have had sciatica on the first day of school hols ,and yesterday could only lay on the sofa.

I had to wait in as I had people coming to the house in the morning and then again in the afternoon.

Pil turn up and it is chaos as the kids were about to have showers, so I ask the dc's to come in, we sit down and the questions begins.

He questions everything I do with my dc's, I find him such hard work having to explain my actions to him,and I snapped yesterday, did not help that I was really tired, he makes out that I am a bad parent and lazy.

He also will not take his shoes of in our house, as we have new carpets he thinks he does not have to take them of, so I told him yesterday to please take shoes of , as I asked him before and he ignored me.

I had a frosty reception after that from both, so was I being rude?

Mil wants to meet up with dc's but we do have other plans and I said so nicely, I value their help but find them so overbearing sometimes, my parents have not helped at all its all getting to me.

I don't see what your aibu is ? Sounds tough though.

You don't have to explain yourself to him.

Sounds difficult. Is it possible to just block the way further into the house until he takes shoes off?

Sorry aibu for being blunt and almost rude to FIL is what I was meant to have said.

no your not, its your house, if you want people to take their shoes off then they should take their shoes off and they should realise that you've had a lot on and probably don't need them adding to it.

Thanks Xihha I appreciate the kind words, it has been stressful.

I think it was pretty obvious what the AIBU was about. Anyway I did not think you were being unreasonable because he does sound rude.

YDNBU. Moving is stressful enough without your fil acting like an idiot.

Thank you ladies, I feel so much better now.

You "value their help"? Er... what help?! Help would have been taking the kids out rather than sitting there, blocking you from dealing with the chaos, let alone nagging you and making mess with shoes.

Good point Renter I was just being polite about valuing their help, you have a valid point.