To be a bit disappointed in my brother?

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He has not sent a card (or present, although am less bothered by that) for DD's 3rd birthday yesterday.

No text. No call.

But he 'liked' the photos of her party on fb in between posting links to random crappy news sites so clearly knows

I know my DC aren't the highlight of everyone else's world, but AIBU to think this is a bit rubbish of immediate family?

Would you say anything to him, if you were me? Or just silently add it to the spreadsheet of annoyances?

I dunno, Buttons.

BIL (Best Uncle Ever according to my children) never gets their birthdays right, forgets cards, rarely sends presents, but does turn up on holidays and take them out one-to-one.

Similarly, my sister's ex-DP probably doesn't know their birthdays, but takes them climbing or go-karting, and the kids were very upset to see less of him after he split from sister.

My brothers remember every birthday or did, until one of them got snotty about not getting a thank-you card fast enough for his liking but wouldn't dream of doing anything with the children.

I hate the whole "men are crap at birthdays" line that people use as an excuse in these situations.

Really doesn't bother me.

I've never sent cards or presents to my nephews.

SIL doesn't send to my kids. (DHs sister)
My brother might send something if he remembers but not likely to.
No big Deal.

The important hing is that they get a big fuss from me and their dad. I make sure the kids make a big deal out of DHs birthday and DH and the boys makes a huge fuss over me.

On the other hand, my other brother is unbelievably amazing at sending cards and presents and also playing with both DC and they adore him. It doesn't have to be either/or