Holiday rant.

[biryani]

I have booked a short break of 4 nights away, a journey of about 150 miles each way. Dp has a business and, knowing we are away, has booked a job, meaning he needs to come home early. He's done it before. Aibu to expect him, for once, to complete a family holiday?

yes, I would

So, can he not cancel or postpone it for a day or two? What is his reasoning behind booking a job when he knew you had booked a break?

YANBU to expect adults to stick to plans one they have made them, unless they have a very good reason or circumstances significantly change.

But how is your money situation? Does he feel that he needs to take on all the work that he can?

He does't really have a reason, except to claim that he desperately needs thevwork. He doesn't ; it's not even lucrative. He has a consultancy job too ( not related) and refuses to take time off from that either.

I understand that he feels insecure, but he has interrupted every family holiday for the past 3 years, for the same reason. I'm getting fed up now.

My DH is self employed.

If a job comes in, you have to make hay whilst the sun shines.

If a job comes in whilst we're on holiday (always done when the opportunity arises, we can't pre-plan) then so long as it's at either end of the holiday there are no issues. He only turns work down if it's in the middle of a break.

YANBU to be annoyed. I used to find DH's business incredibly inconvenient! YABU to feel your annoyance should take precedence of work.

It's not about just that job that comes in, if DH turned down jobs that were inconvenient he wouldn't get repeat business, someone else would.

YWNBU if he never even attempted a family holiday, and I agree with you that they're important, but I know from experience that this is often the way it is when you're married to someone who works for themselves so you may as well accept it and tailor your holidays accordingly!

Or go abroad, so far away that 'one job' wouldn't be worth the hassle of taking.

Thanks aldi. You seem to understand where I'm coming from!