To think this was a mean thing to do (pet related)

[Sunshineandflowers]

My dog has a favourite place to lie on our half landing. DH dislikes this because she makes the window silk dirty. I wipe it daily. Yesterday when I was out he wanted her to move and she wouldn't. He tried to coax her with a biscuit but usually he coaxes her then doesn't give her the biscuit so she doesn't fall for that trick anymore. (This is a crappy thing to do as well and annoys me). So he got out her lead and told her she was going for a walk, clipped lead on and took her to the kitchen, then shut the door on her and left her there for rest of the afternoon.
AIBU to think this was totally out of order? Because he thinks I am!!!

The dog should do as it's told, but it can hardly be expected to know the rules if they aren't consistently applied and its training is fucked about by stupid stunts. I'm less concerned that it's mean to trick the dog like that (which it is) and more concerned by what it says about how it is trained and handled - and bad training makes for an unhappy dog.

BTW, I mean by your DP, not you OP.

She's not on the windowsill as such, just likes to rest her head on there and look out (low window). That way she can see what's happening outside and she likes to watch for when I'm coming home etc. I wipe the windowsill every day, it's no big deal. She's nowhere near as messy as my children are!!

See this is what worries me, DH thinks he is totally in the right to pull stupid stunts like this (it's not the first time) yet despite everything we seem to have a happy little dog who is generally well behaved. I don't want her to distrust people.

That says quite a lot about your DH... none of it good.

What a nasty little streak he has!

Your dog sounds great...your dh sounds mean and childish - its no wonder your dog doesn't listen to him.

I'm no dog expert and strongly believe that dogs should follow the commands of the people in charge of them, but what your husband is doing strikes me as not only spiteful but counter-productive. He is just teaching the dog that it will ultimately be punished for doing as it's told, which completely undermines any benefit from established training. Your husband's stupidity is more likely to end up in the dog following no orders at all .

Your husband is being an idiot. If he wants to train her to sleep somewhere else then he would have been able to a long time ago if he had just given her the biscuit. She would have probably gone and lay wherever he told her to then.
This seems deeper seated than just wanting her to move from one spot. This seems like he actually enjoys being spiteful and has picked this battle because she's well behaved in other areas. Does he actually like the dog or have much to do with it?

It's a napping spot that she uses intermittently during the day. She's been there more often lately as it's cool there. It's only recently DH has started wanting her to move and there's no concrete reason for it!

He says he likes her but doesn't like the fact she doesn't listen to him. I have tried explaining dog behaviour and bought him a few books when she was a puppy but to no avail. I don't claim to know everything but have friends with a lot of dog knowledge so tend to ask them about the big stuff and use intuition for the rest. He only walks her if I really ask him to and that's about the extent of his interaction with her.

See this is what worries me, DH thinks he is totally in the right to pull stupid stunts like this (it's not the first time) yet despite everything we seem to have a happy little dog who is generally well behaved. I don't want her to distrust people

My concern would be that, while she's happy enough most of the time, she's probably not overly impressed with how she's being treated by your husband and the undermining of her good nature and training may make her more inclined to lash out or react negatively in future. Not that one should pussy foot around a dog, which ultimately has to fit in with life, but I generally believe that when training an animal, you get what you deserve. Treat it fairly and consistently and you set it up to succeed. Muck it about and you can't be surprised when it tries its luck.