DP has peed me off!

[brandybabycham]

My DP is a semi-hoarder. He likes to keep stuff ? lots of it! Lots of books, lots of CDs, lots of old newspapers, lots of old clothes he no longer wears, lots of leaflets and booklets, lots of transport maps ? STUFF! I moved in 6 years ago and have lived AROUND him and his stuff. Then DD6 and DD3 came along?

We decided to move and rent the house. I started packing up the kids stuff and my stuff. DP doesn?t like anyone to touch HIS stuff. He stated numerous times?

?DD's have too many toys. I don?t want all this stuff in the new house?. So, I sorted through a lot of girls toys .

?We won?t take put anything in the new house that isn?t essential and hasn?t been sorted out?. So I sorted all our stuff out - furniture, utensils EVERYTHING to the minimum.

TH thought "OK. He?s turning over a new leaf, he?s making an effort?, he wants to do things differently???SO, I sorted through EVERYTHING belonging to the girls and I ruthlessly and boxed it, and threw away a lot of stuff. DP didn?t lift a finger!

I gave him the benefit of the doubt and thought ?? HE?LL DO IT SOON???

Well, it ended up taking a YEAR to move into our new place, and still DP hadn?t started sorting out his stuff !!

I moved us into new home ? making sure girls and I only took the essentials and personal stuff.

Does DP sort out anything?!!

DP literally fills bags and boxes with all that is in his cupboards and takes it - straight into wardrobes in new house. However, he still left loads of stuff in old property (to sort out and throw away)

Fast forward 4 months and we are now ready to rent old property. DP waits until 2 days before renters due ? to bag up rest of his gear and - YES ? BRING IT ALL TO NEW HOUSE!

Now, house is empty it needs a clean. DP wants ME to go around and clean it!!! I refused, so he is paying £80 for a ?deep clean?. I am fuming!

This could have been done months ago if he had 1) sorted his stuff out months earlier 2) cleared old property sooner 3) sorted stuff before bringing to the new house to dump!!

And breathe??.

Chuck it all in a skip and tell him to piss off.

He sounds like a controlling arse.

No....he is the VICTIM ......... . I am the naggging wife constantly asking for him to sort it all out! while stepping around frigging STUFF

YANBU - hoarding can be part of a whole host of other issues, but if he's doing it whilst complaining about your DDs' toys, then he's being an arse.

Stick it all in the car. Make him give you a genuine reason for why an item should be kept before it comes back in the house. Anything still in the car at the end of the day goes straight to the tip.

I feel your pain. DP is a mild hoarder as well, just lots of books, CDs, brochures for training courses he went on five years ago (), and when we last moved - in the heat while I was heavily pregnant! - he didn't really sort anything either. The new house still has all this crap in, though luckily it isn't taking up too much room and he is just starting to understand that he is keeping too much.

The comment about the kids toys needing sorting when he's not prepared to sort his stuff out, however - that would really annoy me.

Ginocchio - It's more the fact that HE was ADAMANT everything was sorted before we moved. Then he did nothing!!!!!!

Then the dramatic proclamation ..." I am just going to take all my CD and DVDs to the charity shop (because he can't be arsed sorting them out)..........before moving EVERY LAST ONE....... to the new house....unsorted!!!