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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be a bit miffed with DS Nursery

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xmarksaspot · 18/07/2013 22:12

My DS leaves an independent nursery at the end of the month to go to school nursery.

Its a tiny nursery (18 places 2-5yo) has been fantastic and my oldest son went for 3 years the month he went to school my DS2 started. I have therefore paid the nursery every month since October 2007. I work 3 days a week, a rough estimate of what we have spent is between 35k and 40k.

Next week they are taking the children who are leaving out for the day - not in one of DS2 normal nursery days. They have told me I can either change the day he goes next week (cant change working week any way its school hols so have DS1 that day) or pay for an extra day (more than £50)

I have had to say DS2 cant go I feel like they are being mean and am going to email the owner to let her know I wont be recommending the nursery to anyone in the future

I thought she might just let him go on the trip??? Am IBU????

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xmarksaspot · 18/07/2013 22:39

But you do get nectar points I think thats my point

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ImagineJL · 18/07/2013 22:39

YABU.

It's a working day like any other for them. Staff have to be provided for the trip, ensuring the correct ratios. Parents whose children always go on that day will be paying, so why shouldn't you?

WaitMonkey · 18/07/2013 22:42

You are massively unreasonable. I think you are also being really cheeky. effectively asking for a free day. Bit embarrassing in my opinion.

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xmarksaspot · 18/07/2013 22:45

ok thanks clearly i am

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HuwEdwards · 18/07/2013 22:47

xmarks but Sainsburys is a huge corporation and the little independent nursery is probably desperately trying to make ends meet.

Offering you a change of day = nectar points

Ezza1 · 18/07/2013 23:39

Hmm. The nursery my DS went to had a day trip every summer and the whole nursery were invited, regardless.

My DS only did 2 days a week and the trip fell on his "days off" both summers he was there but he still got invited.

kali110 · 18/07/2013 23:52

Sorry think have to agree with yabu. They have tried to offer suggestions but not their fault if you can't accept. Your little ones have hav fun there dont ruin the memories. Dont say bad things just because you can't get what you want because that isnt fair. Sorry bout your dp losing his job that sucks

SpiderCharlotte · 19/07/2013 00:11

I can't honestly imagine why you would see this as unreasonable. They have offered to change the day, they have given your children fantastic care for years yet you want to write and tell them you will not recommend them because they won't give you something for nothing? Sorry, another YABU.

MidniteScribbler · 19/07/2013 03:36

If things are on at DS's nursery on days that he's not there, he can attend, but I must go as well. It's due to staffing numbers and ratios.

Have you asked if you can attend with him as an alternative? Or do you just want to drop him off and get a free day of childcare?

pollywollydoodle · 19/07/2013 03:55

OP sorry about your dh's job

redskyatnight · 19/07/2013 05:03

Trouble is if the nursery offer you a free day, this opens the door for every other parent to ask why they can't have a free day too.

Madamecastafiore · 19/07/2013 05:15

If your DP is at home why not swap your DCs day and your DP look after him the day he should have been at nursery?

YABU though, imagine how many extra staff they would have to pay if all of the kids who don't normally go attend on that day??

Blissx · 19/07/2013 06:59

xmarksaspot, if you have your son that day anyway and are not at work, can't you accompany your son to the nursery on that day and supervise him there and not have to pay-have you suggested that as a compromise?

Trigglesx · 19/07/2013 07:40

Or have your DH watch your DS1 so that you can attend with your DS2, if he is currently home due to his job situation.

megsmouse · 19/07/2013 07:40

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Tanith · 19/07/2013 07:53

They are being generous in offering the swap.
Some nurseries would charge you for the extra day if you wanted to send your child on the trip.
A bit disappointing that you were planning to throw the offer back in their faces...

diddl · 19/07/2013 07:58

Why can't you change the day if your husband is at home atm?

Tailtwister · 19/07/2013 08:12

YABU I'm afraid. You can't expect them to fund an extra day for nothing, no matter how long you have used the nursery. Also, to say you wouldn't recommend them on the basis of this alone, despite the fact you admit your children have been very well cared for there is really spiteful.

diddl · 19/07/2013 08:17

Also, who usually looks after your older son?

Could they also have your youngest for once so that you could swap?

Vivacia · 19/07/2013 08:33

Who would you like to cover the cost? Perhaps one of the nursery workers could work for free?

I do sympathise with the idea that all of this is probably just that you'd like some recognition for your loyalty and financial support to the nursery over the years. But you can't expect them to guess this and see it this way.

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