DH not had MMR, I'm newly pregnant and have low protection against rubella. AIBU to insist he has MMR before new baby is here?

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PIL didn't agree with vaccinations. I've just discovered he's had basically nothing. Could have done with knowing this a little earlier perhaps.

I was tested last week for levels of rubella protection (now 10 weeks pregnant), and doctor said they were very low. She said DH needed to be vaccinated once I was 20 weeks, and that DD would need the second MMR as well around that time.

Am I right in thinking that baby will not have any natural protection from rubella when it's born if my levels are low? Can I get her/him vaccinated earlier than 14 months (recommended age here in Germany).

And AIBU to insist DH bloody gets vaccinated against everything? He's under the impression he is naturally immune to everything

I wasn't immune to rubella with both of my pregnancies and I was immunised shortly after dd2 was born.

Not sure why she doesn't want your dh vax until you are 20 weeks? I was under the impression the MMR was not contagious? My dd2 didn't catch it from me when I had it and she would have had zero immunity as I had none.

And YANBU, make sure he is vaccinated against the lot. And dont tell him the MMR hurts (it does )

I would have your husband vaccinated against everything, including chicken pox if available.

Sorry, her husband is a grown man & can make his own choices!! Did you not have the rubella jab when you were a teenager op?

YABU to insist your husband has any medication.

Until the MMR came out only teenage girls had the rubella vaccine so there are vast swathes of men who haven't had it. Are you going to get the whole office compulsory immunisations?

I'm intrigued how you came to get level of rubella antibodies back already when you are only 9 weeks pregnant? Are you overseas?

I had the MMR plus a booster at some point at school, according to my mum.

If I had known I had low immunity to rubella now, I'd have had a booster. In fact, I had originally tried to get all three of us to the doc's for the MMR shortly before a visit to the UK three months ago because I was worried about the measles outbreak. But DH made such a fuss that we never went in the end. (DD had it obviously.) I feel a right idiot now, because I obviously should have gone and got myself done whether he wanted to or not, but I wasn't expecting to get pregnant quite so quickly so I thought I had more time excuses, excuses.

SisterMatic, I was under the impression it was a live vaccine because of what the doc said ... But I'm very happy to be told I'm wrong!

The MMR hurts a lot? Poor DD, no wonder she cried so much :(

Yes, Jack, in Germany. I had my first scan at 9+4.

Hmm bollocks, I was hoping it wasn't unreasonable of me to insist on his getting vaccinated! I don't want him getting measles or mumps!

An interesting one. I'd be more concerned about measles personally as there's more of it about. If you google "department of health UK green book mmr" then this will bring up the UK immunisationd guide used by health professionals over here. Might be worth a read for some evidence based information. Sorry am on phone so can't link to it directly.

I am personally and professionally of the opinion that everyone should have every vaccination available to them, however I fully respect the rights of ppl to refuse if they have weighed up the appropriate information.

oh and btw, if you are immune to measles then the baby will have a level of maternal antibodies for upto 6 months after its born, can't remember about rubella sorry.

Of course YABU about this. You can ask him what his feelings are on the subject, but if he says no then you would without a doubt be awful to insist on it.

I've just had my MMR and my little one is 4 months old. I am naturally immune to rubella, drs think its cos my mum had it as a child and passed on immunity. Who knows but I figured it wouldn't do me any harm anyway, and same for your DH. It doesn't hurt as far as I thought, then again birth probably put that into perspective lol
It won't do him any harm so what's he got to lose may as well have it

How about getting him tested for antibodies? Might put your mind at rest?

All vaccines (and medicines) carry the small risk of serious side effects Jean

I think it's perfectly reasonable to insist. My DH is a primary teacher and didn't have all the necessary jabs as a kid, so we discussed I insisted and agreed he would get the mmr.

It was fine, he had no negative reaction to it, GPs were happy to give it to him.

Better safe than sorry.

I don't think yabu. Perhaps trying persuading before insisting though.

hi op I'm pregnant and my child who has had his mmr has just had measles because his jab wasn't effective i was lucky that I'd had measles as a child so should be ok.

but I've had to pull him out of nursery until he can have another mmrjab because of the risk of him picking up illnesses he isn't vaccinated against, not only because of how ill he was with measles but also because I am pregnant and could do without the stress.
my dh hadn't had his mmr jab and gp gave it him.
he had no ill effects from it all all.
I don't think you are being unreasonable asking your dh to have mmr as rubella can cause many problems in pregnancy.

I do think your gp is bu saying he will give it at 20 weeks he should give it to your dh asap.

also I'm sure you've already been told but try to.avoid places largely occupied by children eg play centers.

Have you not asked your DH about this, before putting it on here? What did he say, you CANNOT insist that he does anything to himself although you could always kick him out if he doesn't comply with your demands,your GP should have written to your DH with his RECOMMENDATIONS, not demands. If your DH refuses to listen, then ask him if he will do a test for his immunity. MY DH had never had chicken pox, my DS1 had gone down with it when I was heavily pregnant with DS2. He did an immunity test and we were waiting for the results when i went into labour. We decided that my DH wouldn't enter the hospital until we had proved that he was immune. He spent 4 hours sitting on the bench outside, while we waited and I spent the first 4 hours of labour on my own. On the bright side, he WAS naturally immune (as your DH may well be) and he arrived in time for the birth!

I don't think Yabu IMO your dh should want to do whatever he has to to keep you and your baby healthy .

He probably has better immunity than you- he would likely been exposed and have natural and longer lasting immunity. You don't need to worry about your baby catching it once they are born, the problem is if you catch it whilst pregnant.