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nice neighbour with loose big dog..

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 15:59

just a bit of a moan. nice neighbour further up the street often out the front with her large dog roaming free. friendly dog (ie not scary, to me anyway) although gets too fresh/friendly (always comes up and starts barking to people walking past). i have mentioned in passing to her in the past that dd is scared of her dog (she commented on why does she always run away) but when telling her this she laughs and adds how friendly the dog is. truth is, i don't like dogs although i am not scared of them. dd just burst into tears as when walking past her house just now the dog barked and went started to bound over to us. she (the women) gave a kind of pissed off look because dd burst into tears (i was a bit shocked at dd tbh) however not everyone likes dogs (i don't want to feel i have to stroke it and don't want it licking me). dd is ok with other dogs, just this particular one is rather enthusiastic and free to run out of the house/come over. my sister has three of the buggers, dd should be used to them but is scared of them too. i like the lady but wish she didn't expect me to enjoy the excitement of her dog as much as her. dd is really small, the dog is HUGE compared to her

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Morgause · 18/07/2013 16:00

Report it to the local dog warden. It should be on a lead in the street. They may have a word with her.

LongTailedTit · 18/07/2013 16:03

She should be able to keep it at heel when she's outside - if she can't, it should be on a lead.
I do think you should say something or contact the dog warden as Morgause suggests, otherwise you risk your DD developing a serious dislike of dogs, which is a massive pain for her as a child and will probably stick into adulthood.

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 16:05

she is a nice lady, i wouldn't want to snitch on her. the dog isn't out there whenever we walk past, just sometimes if their front door is open and they are doing something ie washing the car. i don't question dd's fear of the dog (although not ideal) as it is big and does get over excited. i find the dog annoying (as i don't like them) and the women's reaction a bit blinkered/irritating.

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FatherHankTree · 18/07/2013 16:06

Ask her if she'll keep the dog on a lead, or on a long rope, as long as her garden has full shade. Although the dog's friendly, it can be uncomfortable when a big dog bounds over to you, more so for your DD.

I own a dog who's friendly, but no way would I let her go running after people - I know she's harmless, other people don't.

YouTheCat · 18/07/2013 16:07

She is breaking the dangerous dogs act because her dog isn't under control (even if it is on her property) and it is causing distress to the public.

Report her.

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 16:07

btw dd is fine with other dogs if smaller. i can understand a fear of larger ones, i ain't too keen tbh although i think the breed/temperament contributes ie this dogs tends to bound up barking..

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deepfriedsage · 18/07/2013 16:07

I sympathise, odd owners laughing at fearful children, almost as if there is something sadistic in them enjoying watching their dog scare people. That type of owner is avoided by me and not because of the dog.

LongTailedTit · 18/07/2013 16:08

deepfriedsage · 18/07/2013 16:11

Oh and OP, she is not a nice lady from your description.

BeCool · 18/07/2013 16:17

my DD is the same as yours and DD2 looks like she is learning from her sister. it's dreadful. I support her to get to know friendly small dogs etc but she isn't having any of it. I've done this since a young age - no change. (she is also frightened of kittens, puppies and cats but has no problem at all with snakes, spiders and bugs).

people who let their dogs off the lead and then give me and the DD's dirty looks because we don't love their dogs fuck me right off. I used to be a dog lover - but the attitude of dog owners in this country is a huge reason why I am now indifferent to them AT BEST.

Except when I stand in dog poo when I openly loath them all

I get really angry/upset with the patronising looks, the oh dears, the head shaking and tutting the DD's and I get from dog owners because DD/s react to dogs either off the lead, or on a long lead bounding everywhere. Like there is something wrong with them. FFS not every likes dogs!! Shove your freaking dog up your patronising arse I want to scream at them. But I don't - we just keep as far away from them as we can - which can be rather difficult when someone's smelly hairy bundle of bounce is unrestrained.

The amount of times I've heard "don't worry he wont hurt you" - which spectacularly misses the point! So we should be grateful the dog won't bite us???? FFS they have no idea.

Rant over - cheers
watching thread with interest.

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 16:25

becool :D don't you like dogs then? there is another lady in our street who i like/have chats with. the downside is she has a staffie (real thick strong one) that takes her for walks (she is petit). anyway, she often stops and chats with me outside my home when i am watering the window box. my cat likes to come and hang with me when i do this. a fair few times (this lady talks ALOT) her dog has gone for my cat although not got her (yet). she told me recently how her dog went for and bit the ear off someone's dog. i don't think she could stop the dog if it caught her off guard (if she wasn;'t holding the lead properly). unknown to her i do worry that the dog will get my cat whilst she is standing there talking (i can't relax as i am aware that her dog has clocked my female cat sitting there). actually, i am shit scared of her dog, i think it looks devil'ish :D thank the lord but dd is never around when this lady comes to chat :D

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 16:27

smelly hairy bundle of bounce

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YouTheCat · 18/07/2013 16:28

She needs to put a muzzle on it, if it's prone to biting. And she'd benefit from going to some kind of training with it.

Better to do that than to have to have it put down because it has attacked.

Donnadoon · 18/07/2013 16:31

These twats really give us good'uns a bad name! I have a dog he's great, he's on my profile pic too. Anyway he is rarely on a lead because HE IS TRAINED. I only have to command and his response is INSTANT. That is why he can be trusted off his lead. He would NEVER approach another human, adult nor child, he's been TRAINED not to (he is far more intrested sniffing trees/lamposts etc anyway)
So my advice to you would be a smug/sarcky " Ooh hasn't he been trained then?" Embarress these dickheads into taking control of their dogs, Ive had to say it myself when their UNTRAINED dog has charged up aggressively/twatishly to me and mine. Sorry for the capitals. :)

YouTheCat · 18/07/2013 16:34

Donna, what if another dog attacked yours? How would you be able to effectively deal with that situation with your dog off the lead?

You can't rely on other people having dogs as well-trained and non-aggressive as yours.

Donnadoon · 18/07/2013 16:39

I would tell my dog to run home to dad No seriously it is actually safer for him to be off his lead in that situation, rather than me swinging him round by his lead with another dog trying to kill him by me and the kids/pushchair etc.

YouTheCat · 18/07/2013 16:43

See, I am quite scared of dogs that I don't know that are off lead.

I don't know each individual dog and so I don't know whether to be wary or not and so I frequently have to cross roads to avoid dogs that are off the lead on my way to work. As I walk towards someone with a dog I have no idea if that dog is well-trained or not.

I realise that being scared of dogs is my problem but it would be much less of a problem if people kept their dogs on a lead.

Donnadoon · 18/07/2013 16:49

Well I totally totally get that and because Im such a decent person I would cross over and or lead my dog when I spotted you anyway, because its just good manners, my Mam taught me

farewellfigure · 18/07/2013 16:50

I feel for you. Our really lovely neighbour lets her dog run free and it comes and poos on our front lawn. Every time we mow we have to shift her dog's poo. And it smells (the poo, not the dog). The neighbour has suddenly got really friendly with us though and I am so loathe to mention it to her. I have no idea how to bring up the subject.

Feeling your pain. Very difficult. I'll be watching this thread to get inspiration!

kali110 · 18/07/2013 16:50

Why dont you try and have a little chat to the lady, she doesn't sound unreasonable. This wouldn't bother me, dont think its a huge deal but im not scared of dogs.
Might be nicer to have a chat before reporting the lady, wouldn't be too neighbourly!

kali110 · 18/07/2013 16:51

cricketballs · 18/07/2013 17:13

is the dog on the public path/road or in the neighbours garden?

YouTheCat · 18/07/2013 17:14

Donna, I just wish all other dog owners were as nice.

Donnadoon · 18/07/2013 17:17

Me too YouTheCat, Me too

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wintertimeisfun · 18/07/2013 17:35

fare doubt you'll get any inspiration from me . noway would i report her. it isn't a big deal, just a bit annoying when it happens. dd and i tend to cross the road when we can see the dog is out although sometimes he just appears when we are walking past. we chat when we see each other and if she brings it up i will say something in a friendly way in the form of we just don't like dogs much however friendly they are ie don't like touching them blah, don't want to offend her as she is a friendly soul and i know her dogs means no harm :)

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