AIBU: to be upset DP hasn't bothered much with my birthday...?

[MrsCocoa]

A trivial thing in the grand scheme but am feeling a bit hurt DP hasn't bothered with my birthday. Mine today, his tomorrow: we agreed we'd share small gifts so the children could be involved in choosing and giving. I'm wrapping his, but he hasn't bothered with mine at all.

To be fair he tried to sneak out to supermarket late last night. I told him not to rush off and get tat just so as to have something first thing in the morning. I thought he'd get it together during the course of the day. He didn't.

I think you have every right to feel a bit hurt.

So he birthday falls the day after yours, presumably he knew you'd make an effort for his but he didn't think to do anything for yours? Not very clever on his part!

If he didn't buy you anything I hope he at least cooked for you/made a bit of a non monetary fuss?

Oh and Happy Birthday!

Happy birthday :)

Giving the benefit of the doubt here - Are you sure he hasn't already got you something? And perhaps wanted to pop to the supermarket to buy wrapping paper or something?

If not, then you're not BU at all, you've made the effort for his and he should do the same for yours!

It really hurts doesn't it. No excuses he's had a year to think about it but he didn't. I hope he is kind & loving in other ways

Happy Birthday! Hope you have a nice day, even if dh has been a bit disorganised (or thoughtless!). I'd be a bit miffed too if my dh hadnt' bothered to get/do anything. It still rankles that he didnt' get me a present one birthday a few years ago! Admittedly we were mid-pregnancy/ moving house/ refurbishing the house/ he started a new job - but it still hurt.

But try not to let it ruin your day. Buy yourself a big cake, put a bottle in the fridge, order a take away & sing happy birthday tonight with the family :)

I feel your pain.
A couple of years ago, DH forgot my birthday (December) then didn't get me anything for Christmas, then nothing for our anniversary (January).
I seethed for the first two, then on our anniversary I went a bit "Hulk".
In March he got me a Kindle, he has remembered every possible occasion since except mothers' day, but that was DDs birthday so I let him off that one

I am still waiting for my present from last October. I think Dh has completely forgotten that he said that the small book he gave me was a "silly" present and the proper one was to follow

Thanks for your kind thoughts everyone. Nothing did materialise, but did have a lovely picnic in a beautiful park in the evening with the children. The lovely weather and all round holiday atmosphere makes up for a lot!

Happy Birthday.

This used to upset me. I tried to work out why. I just think some people aren't as good at gift giving and making a fuss of others. I've taken a leaf out of my sisters book and started ordering my own (small) presents in advance of my birthday, getting them shop wrapped by buying online and getting DH to put by for my birthday.

This year we're in the process ofmoving so cash flow is tight. I got DH to take me and the DC out for coffee and cake in a local town with a lovely little jewelers so we could choose my present together. £10 brought lovely leaf earings (wrapped) and the DC always say those are the earrings we brought for your birthday mummy. Better than a half dead pot plant from the suppermarket thats been left in the car for two days along with chocolates that have melted and DH/ the Dc pinch the majority of anyway.

Its a little contrived but I feel I have managed the having a little fuss over my day and I have a token gift which is all I want.

Could you contrive a trip out on his birthday/ soon and purchase yourself something informing him its his gift to you for your birthday?