AIBU to want to get some uninterrupted sleep and to use a pillow (11month old baby sleep related)

[Eddiethehorse]

2 months ago, I was able to be a smug mummy, my baby slept and always had slept, through the night in her cot?.oh those uninterrupted nights of sleep??.until we went on holiday to stay with my parents. DH, DD and I were all in the same room with DD in a travel cot. The house is very noisy and after a couple of days a combination of the cot, the noise and mummy and daddy being lax, she ended up in the bed with us and only going to sleep if one of us lay on the bed with her whilst she drifted off. ?No problem? I thought ?she will get back in the routine when we get home??..how wrong I was?fast forward to today and since we have returned from the holiday, we have had one night when she slept in her cot in her room (in 2 months). She REFUSES to sleep without me laying on our bed and cuddling her to sleep. Its blue murder if we try otherwise. I have tried CC, this hasn?t worked, its resulted in all of us being upset, her drenched in sweat etc. DH and I both work FT and we have a nanny, who, has no problem during the day getting her in the cot to sleep, it just seems to be when I am around. We have tried putting the cot in our bedroom, moving her into the cotwhen she is asleep but nothing works, she wakes up gets upset and the only person who can settle her is me. PLEASE give me some advice? I would like to sleep tonight in bed without being kicked in the head and with a pillow??.I admit we should have never allowed things to get this far but they have. I know the problem is me.....

Have you tried taking the side off her cot, and pushing cot and bed together?

disclaimer: this is what we have... but we co-sleep, which is a positive decision rather than the situation you have here, iyswim!

So I'm not sure whether it's the kind of suggestion which would be helpful.

All I can say is: this is what we have done with ours. First few months: me and baby sharing bed, full on co-sleeping, then from 5-6 months, cot against bed with mattresses at same height, so you have a kind of bed conservatory extension

They're still in bed with you but in their own patch.

DD1 slept very well like that and didn't seem to feel the need to migrate over to us very much - she actually liked her own space within the big bed. We got sleep. Pillows worked ok.

If you're ok with having the cot in the room, maybe try that.

I realise I'm talking from the point of view of wanting and enjoying co-sleeping, so apologies if not helpful!

When did you go back to work/start leaving baby with the nanny? I wonder if your baby misses you during the day and is trying to spend more time with you during the night to make up for the time you weren't with her? I co slept with two of my children (at different times) just to ensure we all got some sleep. Is your bed big enough for you to be co sleeping? If you are all squashed in it makes it worse. Could you have a sidecar arrangement, where baby's cot has three sides and is pushed right up to your bed, so baby feels closer to you but you have more of your own space.

Thanks for the replies...we co-slept for th first 4 months until I went back to work and she went into the cot with no issues. I love co-sleeping and don't mind but ideally she would be back in the cot if I had a choice. She doesn't stop moving so its a really broken nights sleep. I work ft 3 days a week and 2 days I come home in the afternoon and the resume work after she has gone to bed which is becoming increasingly difficult as it takes an hour of laying with her despite her being knackered! The issue is the fact that if I'm around, she won't settle with anyone else...maybe she does feel abandoned?! Can I give up work?!! I wish!......I just don't know what to do...we can't side-car the bed and cot because our bed is quite high.....

There's a sleep regression around 11/12 months do it could be that. So she might start going back in the cot soon.

Not just you volestair!

Bugger...l see what you mean!