To be upset nobody noticed very high fever whilst dd in their care

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Hi

When I picked up my 3 year old dd from nursery I immediately noticed she looked unwell. Red eyes, red cheeks and sweaty face, very quiet.

I picked her up and she was boiling hot! I told them to please measure her fever. She had 39.8 fever!!

AIBU to be upset nobody at nursery noticed she was ill while in their care? And note abt 6 weeks ago I told them in writing to keep an eye in case her fever is raised due to another medical issue that she has.

Would you tell something to nursery and if yes what would you say?
Or am I just being unreasonable?

Jesus. When DS had that sort of temp it was a fever and he shortly went into febrile convulsions from the temperature!

Speak to them and see what they say about it. If they're crap about it or seem to be fobbing you off then consider taking it higher and obviously removing her if you're concerned about future incidents.

Poor DD!

No, I wouldn't be happy with that level of neglect, whether I had asked them to watch out for it or not.
I'd be kicking up a fuss and considering removing her.

With the current heat at the moment I should imagine all the children are looking very similar and quite lethargic.

I know my 3year old neice looks like this and she's not unwell.

Mention it but cut them some slack also. I'd just reiterate what you put in writing. Saying it out loud will probably have more of an impact.

When they were measuring fever and saw how high it went they immediately said she was just fine a few minutes ago. I don't believe such high fever can come up in 2 minutes? She didn't sleep well the night before so was not herself from the morning...

Well all the small children I saw yesterday were red faced sweaty and miserable. Yes I would expect a higher level of care, but if it came on quickly in the afternoon, I can understand how they may not have noticed. The ratio at that age is 1:8 in nurseries isn't it?

Is she okay now by the way? Hope nothing too serious.

Normally I would say YANBU and do feel that to a large extent but the weather is very hot at the moment so signs of a fever are much easier to miss than usual.

And children's temperatures can appear very quickly iyswim.

Definitely talk to them and highlight that you are concerned no-one noticed. But if they are generally good then it could be an unfortunate oversight rather than a systematic failing.

How your dd is better soon.

Clarification: a fever can come on within a few hours but not 2 minutes!

Thank you TheOrchardKeeper

maxpepsi you have a point. But they were inside in air condition. And if someone would just have touched her they would immediately have known she had very high fever.

YANBU.

My ex returned my son to me on Sunday and he looked unwell and felt very hot - he told me they had been at the park. Within minutes he was terrible, took his temp and it was 103! Queue mad dash to the clinic at the hospital.

I know it was hot, but fevers take a while to come on. It was hot so he should have been keeping an extra close eye on him, and I saw it the minute he walked in. I went mad.

So I'm totally in agreement with you. They should have noticed, terrible IMO

Flulike illnesss CAN come on suddenly with sudden spike of fever..it's a hallmark.

I will leave it then and just say in a friendly way that I would have expected them to have a closer eye on her specially as I gave those written instructions regarding fever a few weeks ago as she was gravely ill with peritonitis and fever must be dealt with very seriously due to that.

It just gave me a sting in the heart seeing her sitting silently and sad in her chair, being so sick, and no cuddles....

Poor wee thing. I'm sure you made up for it with a ton of cuddles later :)