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To be astounded that women use reusable cloth pads when on their period

322 replies

jeremytampaxman · 15/07/2013 14:03

I had no idea that people did this - found out courtesy of a thread on another forum.

Okay, I gather that it's supposed to be more environmentally friendly than using tampons or sanitary towels (although surely there is energy involved in washing them)...but using & washing out pieces of rag in 2013? Seriously?!

I know it's an individual's choice, I get that. But AIBU to be just astounded by that choice?

OP posts:
ZingWidge · 15/07/2013 20:36

I'mnot I do the superhero knickers thing too sometimes!

see, OP I never knew anyone else doing that, but I'm more than happy to learnWink

gordyslovesheep · 15/07/2013 20:38

Tee it's called sarcasm - hth

phantomnamechanger · 15/07/2013 20:38

thank you NKU (you don't work for them do you?)

emilyeggs · 15/07/2013 20:41

This may help www.charliebanana.com/3-Feminine-Pads-Butterfly-Regular-Box_p_19.html

Oldraver · 15/07/2013 20:44

I mostly use a Mooncup but also use washable SanPro DS's old Fluffle liner and soft flannels folded in three

They get rinsed before being washed so no smelly bloody rags hanging around

Oldraver · 15/07/2013 20:47

I also have no problem pegging them out on the sock thingy

KobayashiMaru · 15/07/2013 20:54

you can make your own easily if you sew at all, for much cheaper. I'm sure there is a tutorial online somewhere.

deemented · 15/07/2013 21:03

Chuff Chafe.

Thats the reason i use muff fluff.

No chuff chafe with reusables. I also use a jam sponge or two. And cloth nappies on my kids.

GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere · 15/07/2013 21:07

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IncrediblePhatTheInnkeepersCat · 15/07/2013 21:08

Tutorial to sew your own

Tee2072 · 15/07/2013 21:30

Yes Gordy, so you should recognize it in return.

Besides, Dee just really won the internet. She's taken your prize. Sorry.

IneedAsockamnesty · 15/07/2013 21:46

About teenagers,

They do make extra slim pads especially for young users, a small wet bag with a zip is ideal for used storage and keeps in any smells (not that I've ever noticed any) none of my older girls have ever been laughed at or ever had a problem with them.

phantomnamechanger · 15/07/2013 22:18

thanks sock - another Q if I may - do they really stay nice and soft and comfy - only someone else on here was on about just using folded soft flannels - now, our flannels are never soft and fluffy when washed - we have very hard water and they come out as stiff as cardboard - that's hardly gonna make for comfy sanpro.

philosophicmum · 15/07/2013 22:28

I started using cloth pads a couple of months ago and you couldn't pay me to go back to disposable ones. No more sticky pads glued to my bush, none of that weird smell you get when the blood reacts with the chemicals in the pads, no rough plasticky edges chafing in this sweaty heat. Plus the extra super ginormous cloth ones are the only thing that's coped with my postnatal gushing periods overnight. I haven't had any trouble just bunging them in with the nappies to wash, and they come out pristine and don't stain the nappies.

Patchouli · 15/07/2013 22:34

I went on to washable san-pro when I was washing nappies and have stayed with them for the last 8 years.
I really like how comfortable they are. supersoft Minkee, velour etc
weenotions are good
and I like having dark colours instead of the white of the disposables.

I saw a pic in a magazine once, years ago, of all the little bits that get left behind (inside you) with tampons - so went off them.

I don't especially like the mooncup - although I do use one if I need to for swimming or whatever, I'd rather not use it all period.

Shitsinger · 15/07/2013 22:46

I use washable sanpro and a mooncup.
I went out for the day with my DD (16) who got her period unexpectedly
I had a brand new Minkee washable in my bag.
She came back from the loo going OMG.
OMG what ?
OMG this is so soft and comfortable.
They mean you can give 2 fingers ( or one) to an entire industry devoted to telling women how smelly their bodies are , how their natural function should be hidden (discreet ) scented ( fresh)
I will never change back to chemical laden, scratchy, environmentally toxic products
Does that astound you OP ?

MummytoMog · 15/07/2013 22:53

I had a mooncup l

MummytoMog · 15/07/2013 22:53

Long before the Internet joined in the fun!

TheCatThatWalked · 15/07/2013 23:14

OP, I wonder what you'd do in my situation. I'm allergic to disposables. Maybe you think you'd just put up with that.

I also have a health condition that (among other things) gives me five-week periods. All the time. There isn't a cure for my condition, not even in 2013, and it can be hard to stop the excessive periods without using drugs that give me unpleasant side effects. That makes the allergy a lot harder to put up with.

My health condition also makes me more prone to recurrent infections and thrush during my period. All five weeks of them. Maybe you think you'd just use tampons instead. Or even a mooncup. If you're that open-minded.

Because of scar tissue caused by my condition and repeat surgeries, I can't use tampons or mooncups. They cause me pain. What would you do then? Shoot yourself?

Actually, as you've probably guessed, I use cloth pads. I started using them out of necessity, but I've been completely converted, because - for me - they outperform disposables in every respect. THey really do make that time of the month (or that 70% of the year) easier for me - less pain, less hassle, greater comfort, greater protection. The washing isn't a big deal, yes, even five weeks' worth - I don't have to do extra loads above my normal. I'm not grossed out by it because I spend my life dealing with blood, and if it bothered me, I'd probably be deeply depressed by now. So I use cloth pads, because I love the change they've made in my life. Because I'm worth it Wink.

It would be so easy for me to start up an AIBU thread with a load of offensive generalisations about women who use disposables. I could even end it with 'I know it's an individual's choice, I get that. But AIBU to be just astounded by that choice?'

What I don't ever do, though, is judge other women for any choices they make to make things easier for themselves during their periods, whether that's using disposables or dancing naked in the garden. I do, however, judge you for lack of compassion, lack of empathy, lack of good manners and general ignorance when you start a thread like this. Yes, ignorance, because it should still occur to you that there might be many reasons why people make a different choice to yours, even if you haven't experienced them. The same goes for all the people who leap on the bandwagon. It's 2013, yes, and using washable sanitary protection isn't what we should be beyond. But we should be beyond starting pointing-and-laughing-type threads at the silly people who don't know it's 2013 and don't know they're being gross. We should be beyond acting with unkindness, bad manners, all these things. If you're just after a reaction then you're probably lapping this up, but I'm saying it anyway for the sake of the 'OMG GROSS!' people who maybe haven't thought it through.

For the people who asked questions about teenagers, if you're worried about friends laughing at school, they don't need to know and they won't be able to tell. They don't smell, and I find them easy to change when I'm out and about, even for a whole day when my period's heavy. I do everything wearing them that I did wearing disposables, and some things that I didn't.
Cloth pads work very well for some people and less well for others. It's worth buying one to try it out. Sorry for the mammoth post.

phantomnamechanger · 15/07/2013 23:18

well said thecat and thanks for your comments re my Qs about teenagers

IneedAsockamnesty · 15/07/2013 23:35

phantom

I have the same problem with flannels but I think its more to do with how the fabric works because I don't have that problem with pads even ones made of cotton flannel the only reason I can guess at is on a washing flannel loads of looped fibres stick up but on the pads they don't I'm guessing that's why they don't go hard.

Oh what ever you do do not wash them with fabric softener it makes them feel weird and not absorb anything

Try a couple of the cheaper ones like minki regular (think I linked to that brand earlier) they are really soft double poppered have a visible waterproof backing ( ideal if your nervous before you get used to them) and see how she gets on with them before you buy more.

And have a look on YouTube as they have loads of tutorials and reviews mainly done by teenagers

NettleTea · 15/07/2013 23:57

I loved cloth nappies. My son loved his cloth nappies - he would squeel and complain about the 'horrible scratchy paper nappies' if someone put a disposible on him. I find tampons give me thrush if I use them throughout, so I tend to use them if I am out for the day on my first 2 days. I ALWAYS use cloth sanpro at night, the night pads have far more coverage! and will use them in the day if Im mainly at home. I cannot say Ive ever found it disgusting, smelly, inconvenient....
Ive tried the jam sponge. Probably for lighter days it might be an option. I dont relish washing it in public. Ive never braved a mooncup, even though I have one. Im a cloth and occassional tampons kind of girl.

NettleTea · 16/07/2013 00:08

Oh and mine go on the line, as did DS's nappies, and DD has already stolen some of my tiny ones because she found them 'comforting' when she suffered from chronic thrush due to longterm antibiotics and needed to use creams. she has asked for her own set when she starts her periods.

phantomnamechanger · 16/07/2013 00:16

thank you sock - I think I am more and more inclined to encourage DD to give these a go - she likes to wear a panty liner every day just in case because things are rather erratic/unsettled - so that's a lot of waste (obv she changes a couple of times a day) and I worry about her being all sweaty and chaffing or brewing an infection of some sort

our council have just launched a massive recycling scheme with coloured wheelie bins (I know, about time) and I think she feels a little odd that just about all our rubbish is now down to her sanpro!

Morloth · 16/07/2013 00:23

I don't get what is so astounding.

I kept meaning to get some but never got around to it. Now I have a mirena and no more periods. YAY!

It is just blood, it isn't a big deal.

Wouldn't you just give them a quick rinse and then chuck them in the wash in the next appropriate wash?

What is the drama?