to feel a bit bereft for the summer?

[theorchardkeeper]

Finished studying for the summer so it's just me and DS.

Love him to bits but I feel so directionless! I'm one of those people who has to have stuff to do or I start feeling a bit low & this course has made me feel ten times better about myself in general.

I'm not gonna feel this odd all summer am I?

I've not been 'bored' in almost a year!

I dont know how old your DS is but get yourself a wall planner and organise what U R going to do each day for the next six weeks. Have a day for the park, musuem, swimming pool, shopping, seeing friends soft play doing crafts/arty stuff at home. Have a day at home so you can both just chill. I think its important to build some downtime into kids routine

We have a lot of downtime I don't drive and am skint so we spend a lot of mornings in, doing arty bits/he'll play alone and I'll tidy up then we go out somewhere.

I need to try and arrange more to do specifically during 'school holidays' as DS (who's 2.6) won't have nursery to break up the day.

Will try find a wall planner though. hadn't though of that, thanks

Didnt want to read and run- sadly not too much advice though. Im in the same situation, had put some loan asside to try and keep dd in nursery for a few hours each week over summer, so she doesnt loose contact with her friends, get out of routine too much etc (shes 3 in a few weeks). But my funds are pretty much on empty already so am screwed really for that plan.

I hope you're not going to feel like this all summer but its hard for both dc and you changing routine. Maybe you could have some friends over in the day either w or w/o their dcs if they have any, or in the evening once your ds is in bed? I feel very deflated already, drinking more in the evenings, depressed in the day for having not enough money. Ive got books to read but really miss being in lectures, seeing people a few days a week and feeling like i was doing something with my life for me and my family.

Sorry ive hijacked your post with my information, just wanted to reassure you you are not alone and it must be a common feeling!

Any faint chance of getting away to seaside or out into country? I know you don't drive, but do you have family or good friends who'd let you put a tent up for a few days? Your DS is just about old enough to find it fun and enjoy it!

That actually really helps roxy thanks. I feel bad for not being more happy about spending summer with DS and no distractions but i guess it's fairly normal.

I've already stayed at family's recently but we have his little friends over once or twice a week, which includes a nice chat with another mum!

Do you have a local Sure Start or community centre that you can get involved in?

They just closed it down for cost reasons.

I think getting a planner, like mentioned before and trying to meet up with as many people as possible is a good idea

Was expecting to feel really relieved and happy not to be worrying about deadlines so think I'm just a bit surprised that I miss it already!