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To say the the woman at the Talyesin Theater last night...

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siezethenight · 14/07/2013 08:34

The Talyesin is a Theater within Swansea University. Younger Dd was performing there last night. I was watching the performance with older Dd.
To anybody whose child was in it - they did good [good]

To the woman in the blue short dress who cornered my elder Dd in the bathroom and made her cry?I hope you are on here, you had two small children with you. You know who you are.
For your horrible comments about her being too young to have a baby - quite what business it is of yours I fail to understand and as for that disgusted face you pulled? Mind the wind does not change - you are only lucky I was not there and I could not find you after the event.

For your information, Dd is 22, granted she looks a lot younger but she's 22 not 15...
Her partner (yes that is correct - she has one) is 25. Yes they are both young but they are not stupid and they are in work and they are not claiming fecking benefits so you are not paying for this baby.
She's just got over her Grandfather passing away.
She's been sick throughout the pregnancy, loosing 2 stone in weight. She's just had 2 wisdom teeth out, has had stitches in her mouth, is in pain, can't eat solid food and its fucking hot outside in case you didn't notice - with 4 weeks to go, she's not having the best of times.

You made her cry with your tone of voice, the look you gave to her and your frankly stupid comment.
Think before you open your opinionated mouth in future and thank your stars I did not see you outside after it. You utter cow.

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MrsMangoBiscuit · 14/07/2013 08:38

What an arsehole. She probably had to have her judgey pants surgically removed. Hope your DD is ok.

ZillionChocolate · 14/07/2013 08:41

Horrible busybody. At 22 though your daughter is going to have to start standing up for herself. You can't always be there to look after her.

NoComet · 14/07/2013 08:57

YANBU and zillion, the OP explained perfectly why her DS was not feeling assertive on this particular occasion.

What a horrible woman.

22/25 isn't that young, today is DH and I's 23 wedding Aniversery - you can guess how old we were

NoComet · 14/07/2013 08:58

DD not DS

Fightlikeagirl · 14/07/2013 09:01

What a horrible woman!
And nothing wrong with looking out for your vulnerable daughter whatever her age!

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 14/07/2013 09:03

Horrible woman. What on earth makes people like that think anyone is interested in their opinions? Never mind thinking they have any right to make someone else's day any worse. Bloody fools.

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siezethenight · 14/07/2013 09:03

I agree zillion Its fortunate or unfortunate that we never had conflict, arguments, issues to drum out at home, the Dc's are unused to people being so rude to them, its not how they were brought up and not what we have had to tackle. I agree though, she will have to toughen up for the real world now.
Its just the fact that right now, she's vulnerable. She's in a lot of pain because of her teeth and can't seem to fight back for herself, possibly hormones. When the lights went down, she started to cry. She said she knew she was being daft, she could have kicked herself for not saying more to the woman than, 'I am 22!?' She does look about 15, she's incredibly lucky, she looks like a young teenager, all that fresh faced, no makeup needed stuff. But still - if she was 15. Crikey, you don't go for an evening out and say that to another person.
Anyhow, she is okay - they are off to watch the Air Show today - both Dd's are Air Force Cadets, dd elder is an Officer. I suppose there they will be surrounded by uniform and she knows she is in safe company.
Tsk to the horrible woman in the loos...

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QOD · 14/07/2013 09:10

What a bitch!

EllaFitzgerald · 14/07/2013 09:15

What an utterly horrible thing for her to have done, no wonder you went looking for her.

Mind you, if she's prone to doing things like that, she'll say something to the wrong person one day, who will wipe the floor with her.

Grumpla · 14/07/2013 09:18

My best friend DID have a baby when she was 15 and it makes my blood boil to hear some of the things that complete strangers felt perfectly entitled to say to her.

On what fucking planet do people think its ok to say to someone "You disgust me" based on their age? Or anything else for that matter?

Blue dress woman - if teenaged parents bother you that fucking much that you like to spend your leisure time witch-hunting in public loos for them, why not go and help one of the many advice centres and charities which are set up to try and cut rates of teen pregnancy. Making some poor girl cry in the loos is fucking bullying.

OP - Hope your DD feels better soon.

Alisvolatpropiis · 14/07/2013 09:21

Your poor daughter.

That woman was incredibly unpleasant! What did she think she was going to achieve saying that to your daughter.

Also,I remember that theatre fondly

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siezethenight · 14/07/2013 09:22

I was livid but also didn't want to kick off as it was a children's theater production and she easily could have been the mother of a child in it - which my younger child sees each time they get together.
I would never have found her anyhow, far too many people there.
Still. Its ranted off my chest this morning and I feel better now.

Happy anniversary star Dd and partner have been together since she was 16 and are joined at hip - I used to think, say nothing about this age gap (which seemed huge back then but in reality was not) and it will fizzle out. It did not. They are glued together. I hope they arrive where you are today in 23 years time. I think they might be one of those cases where they meet at 16 and that is that, game over until they are old and grey. It certainly seems to be that way. If so, I could not be happier for her, that is a happy life. I want her to have a happy life
Have a lovely day however you celebrate your anniversary.

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siezethenight · 14/07/2013 09:25

Alis It was so hot in there last night you can't believe it. Its a small theatre and no air con that I could tell, the heat outside, the lights inside? Honestly, boiling. But it is a nice theatre... Auto-correct is respelling my theatre - apologies. Have turned it off now!

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HeffalumpTheFlump · 14/07/2013 09:36

What a complete bitch. I'm 23 and heavily pregnant and I have had horrible looks and comments off of strangers. It doesn't help that I look quite a bit yoinger, but it's still disgraceful!!

They don't know that me and DH met at 16, are best friends and happier and more settled than most married couples in their 30's, have been through absolute hell together over the years and have stuck by each other through thick and thin. They don't know that we have created a loving family consisting of me and him, and that we have a hell of a lot of love to give our baby. They dont know that the horrific things we have been through have made us mature faster, and grow stronger as individuals and as a couple.

But i don't bite back, I politely smile and ignore their comments and looks and I hope that shows that out of the two of us, I am the more decent respectful human being. If I were to scream and shout and be rude in return it would make them feel justified in their closed minded opinions.

Good luck to your dd and her dp, and your reaction shows that you care very much and that's lovely.

thekatsatonthematt · 14/07/2013 10:20

Wow, some people are unbelievable aren't they?

I'm lucky enough to be 35 but often still mistaken for being in my 20's.

Giving people my (unremarkable) numbers (37 weeks pregnant, still working cos I feel ok, its number 2, ds is 18 months, yes I'm married, nearly 8 years, I'm 35 you know...) seems to open the door for all sorts of ridiculous and contradictory comments.

And not having any ice cream in the house yesterday reduced me to tears hormones are a bugger.

Good luck to your lovely dd

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