To of changed mind and said ds could not go for a sleepover.

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Had my ds doing the guilt trip all day thought I would ask you wise mumsnetters for your thoughts.

DS 6 was invited round his friends house for a sleep over, he has been a few times before and enjoyed himself, so I said to his friends mum, yes no problem. Saw on facebook this morning that she friends mum had put looking forward to doing to see xxx tonight for a BBQ will be a good night. But puzzled as thought ds was staying, I did not post anything but popped to shop first things where I bumped into her, she asked if it was ok to pick ds about 4. I said I thought you had forgotten as you mentioned on f/b you were going out. She replied oh its ok its only a 10 min walk up the road and your ds can come no problems.

My concerns were ds was going to be in house with about 10 people he doesn't know (and I dont know them either) and his mum is always putting drunked photo's on f/b and I know she and her dp like a drink. I just did not want my ds to be round someone elses house that I don't know with a bunch of strangers drinking. DH agrees with me, but ds thinks I am a wicked witch!

I know the mum but not brilliantly, and knew if I let him go I would spend the night worrying.

WWYD

That is ridiculous.
I would have gone anyway, and taken the boy with me. Or if we had a mutual friend I would have tried to get them to watch h

Agree 101.

Do they have an answephone on their land line? If so Id call and leave a noisy message "Helooooo....been knocking since the time you said you would collect him three hours ago. Noone around. It seems he has been abandoned, so Social Services are my next phonecall"

Take their ds with you, post a note explaining all and then give them a royal roasting when you get back. Selfish bastards.

Steam coming out of ears on your behalf OP.

Am liking the suggestions of getting police round.

I think this shows you that your initial instinct was correct and they would not have safeguarded your ds during the BBQ and sleepover. They are not trustworthy and your ds should not be left with them.

Now you either have to suck it up and look after him until they emerge or call social services to come and get him. The idea of getting the police round is a good one.

would you like the back?
Shocking behavior if the other mum, hope you have sorted things by now

What an absolute cheek!!

Just got back from the party, managed to make the last hour or so, luckily niece loved her pressie and spending time with ds.

I knocked on the door again with no answer and phoned with no reply, I then sent a text saying as I hardly know you and had no contact I find it strange I have had no contact so will be contacting the police as I believe something has happened to you. 2 mins later her dp knocked the door full of apologies saying they must have eaten something at the party that had made them ill

Funnily enough her status was updated at 11 pm saying me and vodka have fallen out big time !!!!

He mentioned something about having ds over for sleepover, I snapped and said this is not something that we will be repeating. Cheeky bloody buggers.

So glad though that I stuck to my instinct and did not let him go.

lol @ whattoooodo.

It may be worth passing on your experience to the school in case they have other concerns...

piss takers

Poor little boy, what useless parents. :(

Oh my goodness. Read thread thinking I agree I wouldn't want my DS at a party where I wasn't sure of people, to loving the fact he was sleeping at yours to being oh so angry at the other boys parents.

You can see why they jumped at chance if having him at yours.

Good call re police and text. At least they know they can't take the piss outta you now!

Oh my! I enjoy a drink, DP enjoys a drink but we are never so trollied we do not get up for our children, especially if they ever behaved well enough at night to be were in someone else's care!