To go out knowing DD can't get home

[littlewhitebag]

DD (age 15) went to sleep over with friends last night. I asked her to find out what the plan might be for today and let me know so DH and i could organise our day.

I text her last night to remind her and i know she read the message but no reply.

Text again this morning. No reply

Have now text her to say DH and i are going out for the day (she knows what we were planning to do) and hope she has money for a taxi and a key to get in. I know she has neither. No reply.

Is it reasonable just go out as planned or go and leave a key and £10 under the mat so she can get home?

She sounds a typical 15 yr old. They seem to revert to toddlerhood, thinking that you just know everything in their heads by some sort of osmosis.

Phone her but YANBU to go out at all, she has to learn. You could always leave a key with the neighbour for when she calls you in a panic.

I am with you OP - my DD (16) is hopeless at communicating! I know she will be round and about with her friends, and on numerous occasions I have asked her for just a simple text - I am at X with Y &Z, and I will be home at... How hard can that be?

I think I would leave the key somewhere, but possibly ignore her texts/ calls asking where it was for an hour or so....[evil Mum emoticon]

This is my DS too. Keep telling him to lift his mobile in case I need to let him know that plans have changed. It's currently sitting on his desk out of charge

Frequently leaves without keys/mobile/wallet(usually has bus fare in pocket), can't get the hang of reversing the charge (and says he'd feel bad asking his granny to pay for the call because he only remembers her landline and our landline), but always somehow manages to land on his feet. Thankfully MIL and DSD1 live close by so if he ever gets locked out he justs heads to their houses to wait.

He's turning 16 and due to fly to my DM by himself. I don't think I'll relax until she lets me know that they've met him at the airport

It is the BUT MY PHONE WAS ON SILENT that drives me up the wall it really does

Leave a key with a neighbour, and text her telling her which neighbour has the key.

I have definitely been tempted. DD gets up goes out. I later go shopping, then I get a phone call, can't get in the house. Drove me crazy.She has left home now, did it a few times but soon learned.

What frog said.