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Selfish noisy neighbours

36 replies

Notcontent · 12/07/2013 23:50

Yes, I know it's been done to death before, but surely I am not being unreasonable to be upset that someone is having a really rowdy party in their garden at nearly midnight?
It's not even next door, but a bit further down. All my windows are closed but they are so noisy. Loud music and drinking and carrying on, increasingly getting worse. I mean up to about 10 pm that may be ok but after? It's terrace houses so I can't really tell who it is and nothing I can do.

Are people selfish or oblivious? I guess they are drunk, but living very close to other people in central London, in a street with lots of young children, wouldn't you think twice?

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fortyplus · 12/07/2013 23:52

I think midnight is reasonable as a one-off, but would've been considerate to inform the neighbours in advance with a reassurance that noise would cease at the stroke of 12

Southeastdweller · 12/07/2013 23:54

I think up to midnight is fine and it is Friday night, after all.

Hope you get a good nights sleep.

Mimishimi · 12/07/2013 23:56

If it's a one-off, YABU. If it's three times a week, YANBU.

pictish · 12/07/2013 23:58

If it's a one off then yabu. People have to be allowed the very occasional blow off.

If it's a regular thing, then yanbu.

Original poster
Notcontent · 13/07/2013 00:02

Really, you think it's ok to shout out drunkenly so that the whole street can hear? They are not just sitting around having a chat.

To me midnight is really late - and I am not old.

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chrome100 · 13/07/2013 00:03

Yabu. Midnight is not late for a Friday

pictish · 13/07/2013 00:04

It's not the sort of thing that grates my cheese - what can I say?
If they are regularly intrusive with noise that's a problem.
Once in a blue moon isn't. Imo.

pictish · 13/07/2013 00:05

And midnight isn't late for a Friday. I'm still up.

RaisingChaotic · 13/07/2013 00:07

YABU if it's a one off/occasional thing.

Not entirely sure what it being Friday has to do with it though.

sweetestcup · 13/07/2013 00:08

Midnight is not late for a Friday or Saturday.

pictish · 13/07/2013 00:11

You'll get plenty on in the morning agreeing with you OP. They're all in bed now. Grin

Original poster
Notcontent · 13/07/2013 00:13

It doesn't sound like they have any intention of stopping for quite some time. So what is a reasonable cut off point?

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DameDeepRedBetty · 13/07/2013 00:17

Well... the 18-30 crowd are still merrily bellowing at each other on their way between pubs outside at the moment. So far so good, no one's called their soon-to-be-ex-boyfriend a complete cunt yet, which is fairly normal for this time of night in the warmer weather.

Seriously, when I have parties I invite next door, but I haven't forgotten being knocked up by a charming apologetic chap to complain about the night before who turned out to live three streets away (but sort of down the hill so no buildings to block the sound IYSWIM) after a rather good one in my final year. I'd truly had no idea sound could carry so far.

I did go and complain about one three doors up when I was still confined indoors by BF. Turned out to be a flat full of off-duty firemen, who apologised profusely, gave me a mahoosive glass of wine, and were generally really rather gorgeous.

Have read post back and feel it does sound like I might be Jilly Cooper in disguise, but honestly I'm not!

Make notes in your diary, let neighbours know you could hear it all loud and clear and make an issue of it if it happens again OP.

fortyplus · 13/07/2013 00:18

As a one-off on a Fri or Sat night I'd say soon after 12 is reasonable, 1am is annoying but not awful. I'm off to bed now! it's dead quiet where i live

TheFutureMrsB · 13/07/2013 00:19

I wouldn't say midnight is late for a party but I do think that in a street/house setting it should have been moved indoors by now as you should consider your neighbours. I do anyway and am in way before midnight as it gets too chilly!

pictish · 13/07/2013 00:26

If they're still merrily shouting outside at one, I think it would be reasonable to ask them to take it inside.

BOF · 13/07/2013 00:33

Yes, just ask them to move it indoors.

AgentZigzag · 13/07/2013 00:43

Hopefully they've packed it in and you're getting some kip OP, but I'd be tempted to go and check it out, it'd be worth the risk to see whether they've got a DameD's fireman set up going on Grin

YABU to mention grated cheese pictish, I need cheese on toast now Hmm

justanuthermanicmumsday · 13/07/2013 02:05

I'm gona get attacked for this but i don't think residential streets are places for loud late night parties and boozing. A couple boozing in their own home fine, but inviting dozens of people into a tiny house making it into a nightclubs for the day isn't right. People should have to hire a cheap hall for that. One of my neighbours does if, but its rare so i tolerate it. manly because they are decent folks.
Still i don't think its right, but everyone has their own view. Midnight is not late to some but to those with small kids it definitely is, and more senior residents too,

i don' think being loud whilst drunk in residential properly is acceptable behaviour and it doesn't mean your old if you think this way, it means your sensible and thinking about your children.

ChuffMuffin · 13/07/2013 02:14

Mine have been having an epic argument for a few hours. Police have been called twice. I'm wide awake and I have work in the morning. :(

kali110 · 13/07/2013 03:02

Might have been nice for them to have atleast put the word out that they would be having a party. If its every now and then its not a big deal. To some midnight isnt late., i used to have to start work at 630 so would go to bed at 9pm fri night so i could get up at 445 so that would have been very late for an unknown party and pissed me off.

mrswishywashy · 13/07/2013 04:41

The people across the road have just turner their music off although they are so loud I can hear their conversation. I haven't slept as had windows closer to block out noise plus they woke the baby who is now wide awake. Very tired and cross they've got their doors flung open so the noise just is really loud.

beaver33 · 13/07/2013 06:26

YANBU. My neighbours two doors down were playing ear-bleedingly loud music last night with all their windows open. 8 week old LO would not settle. I could see other neighbours curtain twitching but no-one did anything. So I marched round there at 11pm and politely asked them to turn it down. Not a party - just a middle aged woman loving her reggae.

She apologised, turned it down, then turned it back up, rang our doorbell and said next time we wanted to complain we should go straight to the police! I was Shock.

Some people are just inconsiderate, selfish f*s. OP, I think people who say YABU have never experienced quite the level of noise that some arseholes can generate.

Buzzardbird · 13/07/2013 06:43

Fecking labours have got me up at 430am again! I am considering phoning the police about them...they deserve to do 'bird' Grin
I want to know what the carrying on was?

Buzzardbird · 13/07/2013 06:44

Fecking magpies