to refuse to clean this room.

[martini84]

One of our bathrooms is only used by dh.
Every day he leaves shaving foam in the sink and leaves manky toilet roll in the bin.
I can clean the sink but its bad again the next day.
Aibu to leave that room.
I am a sahm with 4 dc if that is relevant. (Not sure)

YWNBU to refuse to clean it

I would tell him that you're not cleaning it any more because he doesn't flush his toilet roll away and rinse the sink after he uses it and you're not his skivvy.
I wouldn't just stop, that's passive aggressive, talk to the guy, you're supposed to love each other.

Leave it. Not your responsibility. His mess, he should deal with it. Does not matter how many children you have or whether you work out of the home or not. He is an adult. Expect him to behave like one.

YANBU

I don't understand - what's the toilet roll doing in the bin? Do I want to know?

Put a bin liner in the bin - is it a pedal bin? If not replace it and when you change the bag you won't have to look at what's inside.

As far as the basin's concerned, I'd leave him to it. Nobody's so important they can't wash out their own basin.

Have you married I to the upper classes? Did he grow up with a personal valet? I don't understand how people can use a bathroom and not leave it clean when they have finished. He must have some sense of entitlement if he thinks its not his job to clean up his own personal mess.
Personally I'd leave a big note stuck to the bathroom mirror asking all users of the bathroom to please clean their mess up before leaving, all cleaning products required are under sink/on shelf/very handy place.

DH uses the bathroom = DH cleans it.

FFS it's not rocket science.

You've got 4 DC, not 5.

Let him clean up his own shit.

If he's happy to live with it like that it's no reflection on your housework skills.

Has he ever said anything though, or is it your control issues standards that are poking you with a shitty stick?

Did I see a thread from your dh asking AIBU to be pissed off by his dw constantly desecrating his private privy with constant cleaning? I say where's the problem? If only he uses it, then shut the door and leave him to ferment in there until he grows up! :-)

Aye, to all above.
Cheeky fecker.

I would not move a finger there.

not shit literally but yes discussion needed.

After being married for 30 years my 'D'H proudly declared that he had just cleaned the bathroom sink.

That was the first time ever.

He is now XH.
He would have been XH a lot earlier if MN had been around.

I'm reading this thread in bed whilst listening to my husband cleaning the bathroom. I think I married a good one.

I do sometimes have to clean the bathroom again as he doesn't properly scrub the bath down. But he gives it a good enough clean to make me happy.

Anyway, OP, you definitely need to have a conversation with your dh about it. His mess, his responsibility.

YANBU

What you unilaterally think you should be doing, or the internet thinks, is neither here nor there.

If you haven't ever agreed that it's your job to clean up after him, then I don't know why you're doing it.

You need to talk to him to work out if your idea of any implicit contract is the same as his. It may turn out that you've never had the same idea and should never have been together. If you've muddled along this far though, then hopefully you are both within shouting distance of agreement. (Perhaps not the best way to put it!)

I suspect many couples live in a state of festering resentment because they don't have a 100-page "room-mate agreement", they should be required by law. (Not that I have one - but that's another story.)