To make him cancel this?

[ThePowerof3]

It's my DD1s birthday tomorrow and DH has informed me that he's working so I'll have to get all the food etc ready whilst juggling a baby and 2 v excited little girls, fair enough but he's agreed that we'll host a BBQ for his parents on Sunday without asking me, the house is a tip, I had wanted me him and the kids to do something together after the party and then go out for a meal together but now will have to prepare for this and the house is a tip! Last time they came over to babysit I spent hours tidying and MIL still noticed all the rubbish under the sofa and kindly pulled that all out for me and I felt embarrassed, argh! Am I BU?

No, just sounds like you need a night out together, just the two of you x

Phone up your ILs and change the date. Say you need to spend the day cleaning.

He can't be working the whole of Saturday. If he wants this BBQ to happen, he can clean the house when he gets home from work. Or, he can tell his mother that she is wrong and rude to comment on the cleanliness/tidyness of the house, and not to do it again.

Sorry, but if you just knuckle under to his arrangements and his mother embarassing you, you're impersonating a doormat. Don't.

Just change the venue and go out for a meal with his parents. Explain that you don't feel that your house is clean enough to meet her exacting standards and frankly you will have done enough this weekend and you would like a break. Job Done!

Definitely rearrange. The girls will be worn out from all the excitement, as will you, hosting these things is knackering. It is not on for you to have to host things two days running with no help. Mil should not be commenting on your home and dh ought to make that clear to her. How awful to be picked up on your home in such a way. Very rude of her.

This is your opportunity to return the favour, he's leaving you to sort party and look after kids Saturday, do the same to him Sunday for his BBQ.
Oh and don't tidy up after the party, give him something to do.

Why do you give a shit what his parents think, let them clean up if they are that concerned.

I would really go to town on him for taking the piss!

oh dear bellablot,

you sound very angry.

Tell him he can either cancel the BBQ with his parents, or do everything that it will take to prepare for their arrival.

I think he'll be cancelling it then CloudsAndTrees!